I've decided to take some time off college (that is not what i need advice about so don't try to talk me out of it) it is something I have thought long and hard about and I just feel like college isn't right for me at this point in my life...I just want to work and make/save money and become financially independent...i live with my grandparents and the whole reason i moved here with them was to go to school, and i'm really worried about telling them that i dont want to be in school right now. they're really set on me going to college because not a lot of people in my family did. i'm afraid they might kick me out if i stop going to school, or they'll take away my car. any help on how to talk to them would be much appreciated!!
2006-07-26 11:05:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Do you have a plan? Do you have a good job lined up?
Do you think you will go back to school?
I would sit down and tell them what your plan IS instead of what it ISN'T. Don't say "I'm not going to college" tell them what you will do "I am going to work full time at ____ until I have ____ saved up and a major picked out." Then throw in that means you won't be going to school right now.
OR
You can always go very very part-time. Just take one class at a time so you aren't totally out of school. Just a night class so you can tell them, I'm not dropping out, just cutting back and taking my time. You might like night classes. It's a different crowd and atmosphere in general.
Either way good luck, but I hope you go back! College is such a great accomplishment.
2006-07-26 11:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by az 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you just need to sit down and be honest with them. But have a clear and solid plan for your future. Just don't announce you're quitting college and leave it at that. Tell them that you are planning to take a year off from college so you can save money and determine your career path and future plans(and whether you want a lecture or not... you really need to get that degree eventually - even if it's just an associate degree from a community college). And you should be prepared for them to take your car away or ask you to move out. If you're going to stand on your own two feet and make your own decisions, then make sure you can back the plan up. My guess is that they'll be understanding if you approach them in a mature and thoughtful way. Good luck!
2006-07-26 11:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes parents/grandparents freak out because they think you have not planned out whatever it is you want. They may also be under the impression that all you want to do is party and mess around while you take a "break" from college. The best thing to do is sit down with them and calmly, in a mature manner, explain what you are planning to do. Also, calm them down by giving them an approximate timeline and letting them know that you will be going back to college but not immediately...maybe in about a year?
Remember, they're worried about your future. Just let them know that you know what you're doing, that you've planned, and that you do plan on going back to college soon. I'm sure they'll understand and be fine with it.
Good luck
And really, do go back to college. It's a pain in the butt, but worth it.
2006-07-26 11:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by bitto luv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with them explain to them WHY you want to leave school and exactly what your plans are. Let them know that you've thought this through a lot and that you believe this is the right decision for your life. Be adult about it, not flippant or defiant with them.
If you live with them as part of the condition of your being in school, they have every right to ask you to move out if you drop out, as you're not holding up your part of the agreement. Be sure you can support yourself it that happens.
You really have no right to complain "it's not fair" if they kick you out or take away your car because you're the one deciding to drop out. Live with the consequences of your decision.
2006-07-26 11:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by okbyajc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mind is set to quit college; you have to be honest with your grandparents,they will be disappointed by your decision; but they will understand; it might even be a release to them (financially) You have to understand that this opportunity comes only once in your life time.
if you are afraid ;they might kick you out of the house; or take away your car. Well,you have to be prepared to face the consequences of your decision; and if you want to be independent the way you're describing in your question; well, that is part of becoming independent.
Independence is wonderful; but it does not come cheap.
You are a very lucky individual to have such loving grandparents such as yours; I'm a grandparent and I'm not able to send my kids to college.
good luck to you!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-26 11:37:13 · answer #5 · answered by COCO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them what you plan to do the first step in becoming fin.stable is to provide for yourself. offer to pay rent, a small payment towards the car. With or without a sec. ed.It is diffcult. Act Responsible to be seen as such
2006-07-26 11:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by Bobbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the point of your living with them was so that you could go to school then they should kick you out. You are living there under false pretenses and shame on you.
What an ingrate.
2006-07-26 11:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
open your mouth if you got all the reason to quite on your ed then you must be smart enough to handle all of lifes questions
2006-07-26 11:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to their house
2006-07-26 11:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋