what should i do if my husband accuses me of not being faithful when i honestly am?

Answer 1

Sit him down and talk to him. If that doesn't help: find a counselor, because there are some serious trust issues in your marriage. They need to be resolved, or else you can kiss your marriage goodbye.

Answer 2

my husband the same thing, he would accused me about anything. He would go thru my cell phone and our phone bills and if there's any private number that calls (i dont even know who) he would go on and on and on about it that im cheating. i would tell him that I'm not hiding or cheating behind his back and not at all. i told him also that our marriage is very sacred to me and i will not do anything to put a dent on it. But still, he still don't trust me and still accusing and all i can do is shut up but I cannot take the verbal abuse that's very degrading. I would have to admit that while we was together as boy/girl friend, I made out with another guy, I know I messed up but I still marry my husband because i love him. My husband and I got into a big fight and he doesn't trust me. I'm so faithful to him now and ever since that mistake but he still accuses me and it hurts having to hear all those words because I am being honest of telling him that i am soooooooooo faithful and not cheating on him.
You need to talk to him when everything is calm and let it all out on the table and if he doesn't listen or change then you need to re-think about your marriage because I am. You are not alone.

Answer 3

First examine your actions and make sure u r not doing anything to cause this such as flirting with other men. He should not be accusing you anyway without any reason, sounds like he has jealousy issues and he has probably had them since u met him. You can not change him, only yourself. Try sitting down and talking to him and tell him how it makes u feel when he does this.
I suggest counseling for both or you only if he is unwilling. If you can't do that, get a good book on marriage. There is a new one out by the pshrink on Oprah named Robin something. Sounds like this may not be your only problem with him, but you need help...get it somewhere for your own sake and childrens if there are any. Pray and ask God to give you wisdom and help.

Answer 4

Unless there are some incidents he may have misunderstood...for instance you talking on the phone and suddenly hanging up when he enters the room or a lot of hang ups or something, a spouse sometimes acts suspicious of the other when THEY are the ones being unfaithful. They think if they're doing it, you must be doing it too. Or, they think they will throw you off the track, if they accuse you.

Answer 5

Prove it....

All keep him informed of all activities...if you r going somewhere give a land line no corresponding to that location...say for eg your friends house, doctors visit, etc...
if you go to grocery,drug or any shopping produce recipts to show where you were at what time
Prove all 24 hourse of your everyday schedule...ask him to keep track of car mileage. Do not hide anything from him...wither unknowlingly or deliberately...be clear and stern in your actions! Be assertive...set an example of good behavior

Watch infidelity movies together and curse the person who cheats very badly....let him know you undertand the importance of loyalty and trust...

give him all neccesscry information to contact you at any time and check out if you are there...he will get so bugged by this that he will realise he has to trust you and he will eventually...just takes some time to develop trust..

Answer 6

Tell him to get counselling for HIS issues or you will leave. Tell him this is the way it is because you are not that kind of person and will not tolerate being treated like less than you are, tell him that you are sorry he is incapable of seeing the truth but that it is his problem not yours. Tell him that you deserve to be thought of better than he does and yes you darn well will go find someone capable of that if he can't get a grip. If all that fails, use the old guy stand by, if i'm going to get accused of it i'm going to do it, might as well I get treated like a disloyal ho anyway so if thats what you want thats what you'll get!

Answer 7

Keep a daily log for a few weeks, marking everything down during the day that you do and why.

When he says that again, confront him with the daily log and let him read it.

Then ask him to keep one , keeping in mind that he is being an A S S complaining about you, and have a sense of humor about it, when he finally admits that he made a mistake.

Answer 8

Maybe he is the one that is cheating and he needs an excuse to fight and get out of the house. Therefore he accuses you and you sit at home feeling like crap while he is out gettin his. If ya know what I mean

Answer 9

Well one or two things. You can tell him the truth and risk whats happens to your marriage and everything that you have built with him. or Lie to him and loose everything. When he finds out will be very upset.

I think you should tell the truth. Does this other person love you enough to leave your husband? Is this other person worth it? What drove you to sleep with another man?

Answer 10

If he is accusing you then he may be unfaithful.Talk to him and ask him how did he come about thinking you did wrong and ask him if he's really the one. The one who points the finger is usually the one doing it.