after our 3 kids my wifes has put on some major weight...for the past 3 yrs every b-day, annversery, and christmas i buy her work out gear and richard simmons videos. she never gets the hint. so i pass a few to her..for example when we go out to eat she eats 2 full plates of food. so i tell her all the time hey fatty good thing they do not charge us by the plate here, since u can inhale food so well do you also do floors, you can leave the table hungry we eat again tomorrow, we pay double for ur clothes since we order them for two, ur blocking my sun, u make a better garage door than a window, i can actually charge for my own shamu show, or leave some for the rest of us we are hungry to. i even helped her get invovlved into jogging. by tieng a rope around her waist to the back of the 4 wheeler.postive coaching her by saying either we will burn it off or the road will scrape it off.its a win-win situation. if think if things go on, she will ended using our wood house as a tooth pick
2006-07-26 10:48:52 · 17 answers · asked by itlian_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get a grip.
2006-07-26 10:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is stop nagging her. I'm sure she knows she is overweight and you constantly bringing it up to her attentions is making matters worse. Maybe instead of nagging her about her weight tell her something positive like your hair is so nice today, I really like that lip stick you are wearing, by being positive she might then want to change other areas in her life such as her weight because of the reactions she gets from you is good not ALL BAD. And by the way you married her for better or worse and hey three kids will mess up any women's body so just be thankful you have three kids and a wife.
2006-07-26 17:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are an incredibly insensitive person and if you helped her she may feel good about herself and want to lose weight as it is if you were my husband I would put ya out the door,you married her for a reason try to get back that and show her you are the man she loves instead of making her feel unworthy of your love because that really is very emotionally damaging and depressing making her not want to loose weight,next time think about how she gave birth 3 times to your babies and all you did was had the fun in that situation,respect is needed in this situation,she may feel comfortable with her weight have you tried talking to her about it?
2006-07-26 17:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by me_unique2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you're helping her by making all those "rude" comments? You make me so depressed, I'd fell like "shoveling" all the food I could find in my mouth! Tell her that you're concerned about her "eating" for "her" health and not because you're ashamed of her! Try telling her you love her first, that should help! Ask her how you can help her and for goodness sake don't critize her! If she's eating all that food as you say she is and is overweight she's not happy! She's not going to seek help unless she wants to so just support her and tell her you'll be there for her. Would you leave her if she couldn't or wouldn't change? You're marriage could be in serious trouble. I think you "both" need to seek professional help, counciling or a doctor, preferably together, but if not , go yourself for the "both" of you! For your marriage ! Good Luck!
2006-07-26 18:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your wife has an underlying issue...something bothering her....Could it be her completely unfeeling and undeserving husband?Maybe she eats because she's lonley?Maybe food makes her life a better place. I know if I were married to you I'd try darn near anything to get MY mind off of you! I think the only way that gal is going to lose any weight is by getting far away from you and getting her self respect back.
2006-07-26 18:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by morganga1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. If what you're saying is true - then you're an asshole. Crushing your wife's self esteem by calling her names and making awful comments about her weight is only going to make her eat more. You're actually making her weight problem worse. Instead of belittling her, why don't you encourage her. Go for walks with her every night, offer to take care of the kids while she goes to the gym and change the entire household's eating habits to healthy eating.
2006-07-26 17:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a jerk. I'm sorry, but how DARE you!
She's the mother of your three children, and I think she deserves more respect than that.
You're luck she hasn't locked you out of the house or left you by now.
I hate men who only rely on physical appearances in a relationship. You're obviously too immature to even be married.
I don't care how old you are or even who you are.
Dogs get treated better than that.
2006-07-26 17:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by whit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you start by not calling her names. It only retards the seriousness of the jester. Help her by working out with her. First slowly and gradually increase. Better yet; help her out by connecting her with other women her peers. She'll most likely enjoy being around them and be motivated. Finally you might want to enroll both of you in a gym with a trainer. But stop calling her names; its not going to work!
2006-07-26 17:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a A$$, why would you talk to the mother of your children that way, or the woman you love? Because looks are more important to your dumb a$$ then anything else.
You are going to die old and alone and FAT just because you are a pig
2006-07-26 18:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer & Fasting for you. Mocking some one will only leave them with a larger hole to fill. Support them and encourage them to contribute to life in work that they enjoy, be it nursing etc. Many people choose to regain their life and no longer use food as a substitute to fill the larger than life hole. Do you help and support the kids in case she is no longer able to emotionally support them?
2006-07-26 18:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by Smurf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dumbest guy in the world!!! Why do you think she is gaining weight!!! Are you like retarded for real?!?!? The more you put her down the more she will eat to feel happy. YOU ARE RUINING HER LIFE!!! MOve on you f***in PIG!!! You make me SICK!!!
2006-07-26 18:46:37 · answer #11 · answered by DesertGirlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋