after 35yrs.the spark is gone,the fire is out and i am getting cold.any advice how to heat it up again? i am woman who loves her husband very much.
2006-07-26 10:30:00 · 8 answers · asked by WHAT 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are pleasant to each other, but just co-exist.
2006-07-26 10:37:06 · update #1
I just want to say that you are a strong women to last 35 years. I have been with my husband only 8 and have lost the spark a couple of times. I love my husband dearly though, so somehow we always found it. Just having a day off of work and away from kids is so energizing to us. We just go to lunch, maybe do a little window shopping and make funny faces at each other all day. I guess since the kids are not around we get a little childish our self's. I just think it comes and goes so much ( the spark) that most people are not strong enough to last. I just want to applaud you for lasting this long. Good luck in your marriage and I hope you find the happiness your looking for.
2006-07-26 10:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by luckymom43 2 · 13⤊ 2⤋
You may try what everyone else said go out change your day to day blah blah I am sure you have tried that. Role play be the cheerleader be the clerk at the counter, try a blind fold.Play the game guess what this is.That's if the spark is gone in the bedroom.For and over all change take a vacation and act like you just meet and reinvent your spark talk to him or her like you have never met him or her before.Good luck I hope you can keep it interesting and in my eyes to stay together for that long you haven't lost the spark its just be buried under years of the same thing.
2006-07-26 18:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by squiggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not the spark being gone you just don't know where you left it. You might try changing your routines - get up get dressed, eat breakfast, eat lunch, watch TV, eat dinner, watch TV, go to bed boring add more to this. Have a romantic breakfast with pancakes and whipped cream (hint hint), go for a walk in the park and pinch his booty, offer to help wash his back, go to a drive inn movie. I hope these ideas help and hey life must be good if you lasted 35 years
2006-07-26 17:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A weekend getaway might help. If no one else you know is around, you have to talk and that's always a good thing. Maybe you need a short break from the everyday hum drum...
Ask him out on a date. When's the last time you went out on a date with hubby? Dress up, go out, have some drinks...
2006-07-26 17:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AFTER 35 YEARS...WOW..THAT IS GREAT...
I THINK YOU AND YOUR HUBBY NEEDS TO GO OUT ON A ROMANTIC CANDLE LIGHT DINNER AND TALK ..
THEN YOU GO GET SOME RED PEDDLE FLOWERS AND SPRINKLE ON THE BED AND GET A TEDDY ON AND GET THE FLAMES BURNING..WHILE YOU ARE DOING ALL OF THIS HAVE HIM TAKE OUT THE TRASH OR SOMETHING AND WHEN HE COMES INTO THE BEDROOM YOU WILL BE LYING ON THE BED WAITING FOR HIM TO JUMP YOUR BODY...GOOD LUCK...AND IT IS REALLY NICE THAT YOU TWO ARE STILL TOGETHER AFTER 35YEARS...YOU MUST HAVE ALOT IN COMMEND TO BE TOGETHER THIS LONG..
KEEP ME UPDATED ON HOW YOU SPICE YOUR BEDROOM UP...
MY HUBBY AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 14YEARS AND I DO THIS AND IT WORKS ALL THE TIME...GOOD LUCK TO YOU
2006-07-26 17:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by topnotchcouple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Add some chili power to the lube.
No, don't do that. Communicate more! Tell him what you want, tell him what you dream, get more playful. It's all going to be over before you know it. Enjoy it, or change it so that you do.
Good luck!
Excelsior!
2006-07-26 17:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 35 years of marriage, you should feel lucky that you are still together, be happy and continue too be each others friend.
2006-07-26 17:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by buschlight151 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try new things...go new places..flirt with each other,a note a call.try something u have never tried together sexually..it's fun...
2006-07-26 17:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by fancyface4u70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋