To a degree everybody flirts. I'd be interested to know which, people find more offensive, flirting in front of your spouse, or only when not with spouse. Here's my thinking. My flirting is completely innocent, no ulterior motives (honestly) so I do it in front of my wife so that she can see how benign it is, obviously not trying to get the hook up with her there. Isn't it more decietful and secretive to only act a certain way with the opposite sex if your spouse isn't there? What do you think? (Please no holier than thou responses)
2006-07-26 10:13:43 · 19 answers · asked by peardietz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's much better to do it in front of your spouse.
My husband and I used to work together
and he would flirt with some of our co-workers
(didn't matter if they were old or ugly)
right in front of me!
At first I was outraged and jealous,
even if the girls weren't anything to BE jealous of.
But my husband assured me that I had nothing to worry about.
He has nothing to hide from me
because he doesn't want anyone besides me.
I believe him because of his integrity
in all the other areas of his life.
He is the kind of man who is a man of his word.
Now I believe that if he were to do it only behind my back,
then I should have something to worry about .
Because what would he have to hide from me?
So to make a long stroy short,
I completely agree with you!
2006-07-26 10:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by divalicious 2 · 12⤊ 6⤋
no longer an excellent excuse yet he exchange into decrease than the impression of alcohol good? which will make human beings do all kinds of issues that are incorrect and issues that are disrespectful and so on. you're appearing somewhat stupid and jealous approximately all of this. the guy chosen you as his spouse and has been with you just about 10 years. I say that speaks for itself do no longer you? i do no longer condone what he did, surely i think of he exchange into very incorrect in what he did. yet i'm attempting to teach you that he's merely human and as a human he will make blunders. issues like that's the reason I refuse to circulate to events or gatherings the place there is booze around. some thing seems to continually take place and additionally, anybody isn't their real selves while they indulge too lots. i can't tolerate a decrease than the impression of alcohol. So mark it off as a drunken difficulty and tell your husband you will no longer tolerate such habit any further. that's all i will think of of. desire I made experience to you and helped. (smile)
2016-11-03 01:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting in front of a spouse is fine as long as it is not comparative flirting (look at her knockers is not right if your spouse is not happy with theirs). Some times it can bring up some real good conservations if it is harmless flirting. I agree you should be the same person around your spouse as you are apart. Happy flirting all.
2006-07-26 10:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only disrespectful if it hurts the other person. Doesn't really matter if it's in front of or behind their back. If we do something that hurts the one we love then why are we with them? Not saying that this is the case but if it has been specified that she would rather you do it in front of her and she won't feel disrespected then it's fine. It's all about what works in your relationship because no one else should matter...
2006-07-26 10:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see flirting as disrespectful at all. flirting is just a way to socialize with another person. I'd say close to the same thing to a woman, no matter her age or what not, just to make her laugh or have a funny reaction.
In the end, it's important who you go home with. Not what you say to people
2006-07-26 10:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should be the same person around your spouse as you are apart, ask ur self how would u feel if u knew r saw ur spouse flirting. How would it make u feel? Treat ur spouse how u want 2 be treated.
2006-07-26 10:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see your point completely but I guess it's a matter of how your spouse will react to you openly flirting in front of him/her. I wouldn't do it and wouldn't expect my spouse to either. Though I know everybody flirts, as I do, I tell myself he doesn't.
2006-07-26 10:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's disrespectful if you aren't there and your bf is flirting with someone. It can escalate to him cheating on you.
2015-12-15 22:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think either is pretty disrespectful, but I guess if you have to do it, then do it with your spouse there, so they can at least see it and are able to hit you up side the head when you do.
2006-07-26 14:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby is a total natural flirt - i swear, he doesn't even know he's doing it sometimes and then can't understand why girls are flirting with him. I don't mind it though - its a part of him that I fell in love with!
2006-07-26 11:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by thersa33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is more offensive to flirt behind there backs that tells them that you are trying to hide something and they will assum that you are doing more than flirting
2006-07-26 10:17:27 · answer #11 · answered by TyAnn E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋