what would you do if one of your friends that likes to sleep with everyone wants to meet this friend of yours but this friend of your happens to be someone you truely care about and sorta want to go out with?? i know what my heart is saying its not bring him around her cuz she will do something with him but i want to make sure i am not crazy for being overprotective of this guy i truely like alot...
2006-07-26 10:09:25 · 13 answers · asked by lil_carebear42069 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, she can't "do anything" to him. She can only attract him sexually. If this guy you like is a follower, like other guys, and would "bag her 'cause everyone else has bagged her," wouldn't you agree that, even if you like him, you could probably find someone better and more committed to you.
Do not control him. You must let him decide for himself what is right. You can advise him that she sleeps with everyone. If he ignores your advice, then it means he likes to sleep with girls that like to sleep with the entire town. Not the kind of guy I'd want (if I were a girl).
Definitely don't be "overprotective" of this guy friend of yours. In Guy language, "overprotective" means controlling. Guys never fall for the girl that wants to "control" them or make them feel controlled. We need to feel that we have our space and a certain amount of independence and freedom, otherwise, the relationship ends up feeling like a prison sentence.
What you can do is ask your friend that sleeps with everyone to not go for him. If she is really your friend, she'd back off. If she goes for him, then, she is not worth being a friend because she only cares about sleeping with guys at all costs (even your friendship).
The right guy for you would never sleep with her because he loves you and knows that it would hurt you tremendously if he did that. But it is important that you let him decide not to sleep with her on HIS FREEWILL. That way, you'll know if he genuinely loves only you.
2006-07-26 10:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instinct. I would love to tell you to warn this guy friend but are you comfortable with telling him why you are doing so? You should be honest with this guy friend and see if there is any possibilities for the two of you. If not, then who are you to hide him away from the world? Tell you girlfriend that she should respect this guy friend of yours and that you don't want to have things complicated between the 3 of you. Her sleeping with him could leave you in a very bad spot and you may be the one to lose 'both' friends. Don't stress over the situation. It takes Two-to-Tango and this guy may not even be attracted to this girl.
Play your hand first to avoid losing him.
2006-07-26 17:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if that is one of your good friends then you should just let her know about this dude, I'm sure she will understand but if you think that you cant trust her at all then I wouldn't bring that dude around or you could just let the guy know how you feel an see where things go from there.
2006-07-26 17:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by leihuaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't thin you're being over protective! Your friend is a slut and you know it! If this guy you like should want to meet her for any reason, then you can't stop him. But i would definitely not go out of my way to introduce them. If your girlfriend is being really aggressive about meeting him, she may do it without you there-So if you like the guy, you may want to act quickly before she gets her paws on him. Good luck!
2006-07-26 17:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by court 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, why should you hand him to her on a platter, so to speak? Especially if you have feelings for him already.
Make your own play for him, and tell her strongly to keep her hands off him. If it doesn't work out for you, then you may think of turning him over.
But that doesn't mean he'll want her, even if she is an easy lay for guys. She may not be his cup of tea.
So think of yourself first, you know him better, than she ever will, so go for it.
It could just work out great for you both.
2006-07-26 17:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he know you really like him a lot? if not, thats the first step to tell him. Then, whether he feels the same way about you or not, he should respect and care enough about you as a friend to not sleep with her or do things with her because he knows it would matter to you. And, tell this friend of yours how you feel so that she wont do anything with him because of your friendship.
2006-07-26 17:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by sarah k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally understand that one and I don't trust women as far as I could throw one..
tell her look your my girl but, I really don't want you messing with him...he is a good friend and I don't want him hurt or our relationship to end because of you...
then of course she will do all she can to meet up with him
because women like that are just that way...trust me I had it done a few times( and of them is the mother of my ex's child)
anyway warn him of the kind of chick she is...
2006-07-26 17:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by midnite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i don't blame you for feeling that way. I wouldn't want to bring my buddy around her either. So you do what you think is best for the situation. That is all i can say.
2006-07-26 17:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know how she will act, you can either warn him and introduce them, or try to keep them from knowing each other. Either way, I'd be honest with him about how you feel, because if he doesn't know and she comes onto him, he might be interested in her if he doesn't know you like him. Make sense?
2006-07-26 17:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don`t blame you i wouldn`t bring the guy around someone like her especially knowing you want him yourself...DON`T DO IT....
And you need to sit down and talk to him and tell him how he makes you feel so you two can get on with it...good luck to you
2006-07-26 17:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by topnotchcouple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋