would anyone tell me why women get wrecked for a lifetime when raped?

Answer 1

Rape is considered a long and very brutal torture process to women, its not really forced sex, forced sex is the cover and its name, its a torture process , same as burning someone, cutting someone, only this one is done through sex

Whais psychological stress and pain?
Psychological pain is pain caused by psychological stress and by psychological trauma, as

distinct from that caused by physiological injuries and other physical syndromes. The practice

of torture induces psychological pain through various acts that often involve both physiological

torture and psychological torture to achieve a tactical goal.

Examples of psychological stress include: paralysing fear of death or pain, uncertainty,

unfulfilled anticipation, fear for (and of) others and desire for (and of) others. But torture

also creates other extreme dynamics, and can disrupt usual cognitive processes to such an extent

that the subject is unable to retain the usual sense of personal boundaries, friends and

enemies, love and hate, and other major human psychological dynamics.

Some well-known animal experiments performed in the 20th century show that in addition to these,

the subject's own strengths and weaknesses can be enhanced by psychological stress to the point

that they will enter a "grey" mental world of great suggestibility, where certain critical

faculties in the brain shut down under overload. This renders them less able to judge what they

believe and refute, to conduct logical argument or reject the views of interrogators, and can

cause them in some cases even to side with the torturer in confusion.


Psychological aspects of torture to the tortured
As normal developing human beings, people internalize certain concepts needed to support their

ability to face life. For example, they come to understand that there are people and authorities

who will support them, they psychologically become independent and individual from their peer

group (individuation), they believe they have validity purpose and "a place" simply by virtue of

being a human being and that they are not simply an "object", they have many life-experiences

which give them pride and self-confidence, and so on. These are a very profound platform for

growth; if it is removed or damaged, a person's entire ability to know what and who they are in

relationship to the world can be devastated.

Torture splinters these by guile and sheer force, using both psychological design and the impact

of massive unavoidable sustained physical pain. In doing so, it shatters deep down narcissistic

fantasies of uniqueness, omnipotence, invulnerability, and impenetrability which help sustain

personality. Seeking an alternate means to comprehend the changed world, torture subjects grow

into a fantasy of merging with an idealized and omnipotent (though not benign) other—the

inflicter of agony. The twin processes of individuation and separation which sustain independent

adulthood are reversed.

Beatrice Patsalides describes this transmogrification thus in "Ethics of the unspeakable:

Torture survivors in psychoanalytic treatment":

"As the gap between the 'I' and the 'me' deepens, dissociation and alienation increase. The

subject that, under torture, was forced into the position of pure object has lost his or her

sense of interiority, intimacy, and privacy. Time is experienced now, in the present only, and

perspective—that which allows for a sense of relativity—is foreclosed. Thoughts and dreams

attack the mind and invade the body as if the protective skin that normally contains our

thoughts, gives us space to breathe in between the thought and the thing being thought about,

and separates between inside and outside, past and present, me and you, was lost."


Psychological effects of pain
Spitz observes:

"Pain is also unsharable in that it is resistant to language ... All our interior states of

consciousness: emotional, perceptual, cognitive and somatic can be described as having an object

in the external world ... This affirms our capacity to move beyond the boundaries of our body

into the external, sharable world. This is the space in which we interact and communicate with

our environment. But when we explore the interior state of physical pain we find that there is

no object "out there"—no external, referential content. Pain is not of, or for, anything. Pain

is. And it draws us away from the space of interaction, the sharable world, inwards. It draws us

into the boundaries of our body."


Extending torture to family and friends
A common factor of psychological torture, at times the only factor, is to extend the activity to

family, friends, and others for whom the subject has a deep concern (the "social body"). This

further disrupts the individual's familiar expectations of their environment, their control over

their circumstances, and the strength of (and ability to help and be helped by) their closest

relationships and lifelong support network.


The perversion of intimacy
Torture is the ultimate act of perverted intimacy. The torturer invades the subject's body,

pervades his psyche, and possesses his mind. Deprived of contact with others and starved for

human interactions, the prey bonds with the predator. "Traumatic bonding," akin to Stockholm

syndrome, is about hope and the search for meaning in the brutal and indifferent and nightmarish

universe of the torture cell.

The abuser or user becomes the black hole at the center of the victim's surrealistic galaxy,

sucking in the sufferer's universal need for solace. The subject tries to "control" his or her

tormentor by becoming one with him or her (introjecting) and appealing in vain to the monster's

presumably dormant humanity and empathy.

This bonding is especially strong when the torturer and the tortured form a dyad and

"collaborate" in the rituals and acts of torture (for instance, when the victim is coerced into

selecting the torture implements and the types of torment to be inflicted, or to be forced to

choose between two evils named by the torturer).

The psychologist Shirley Spitz offers this powerful overview of the contradictory nature of

torture in a seminar titled "The Psychology of Torture" (1989):

"Torture is an obscenity in that it joins what is most private with what is most public. Torture

entails all the isolation and extreme solitude of privacy with none of the usual security

embodied therein ... Torture entails at the same time all the self exposure of the utterly

public with none of its possibilities for camaraderie or shared experience. (The presence of an

all powerful other with whom to merge, without the security of the other's benign intentions.)

A further obscenity of torture is the inversion it makes of intimate human relationships. The

interrogation is a form of social encounter in which the normal rules of communicating, of

relating, of intimacy are manipulated. Dependency needs are elicited by the interrogator, but

not so they may be met as in close relationships, but to weaken and confuse. Independence that

is offered in return for "betrayal" is a lie. Silence is intentionally misinterpreted either as

confirmation of information or as guilt for 'complicity.'


Forced absorption of the torturer's perspective
Torture combines complete humiliating exposure with utter devastating isolation. The final

products and outcome of torture are a scarred and often shattered subject and an empty display

of the fiction of power and control. It is about reprogramming the subject to succumb to an

alternative exegesis of the world, proffered by the abuser or user. It is an act of deep,

indelible, traumatic indoctrination. The abused or used also swallows whole and assimilates the

torturer's negative view of him and often, as a result, is rendered suicidal, self-destructive,

or self-defeating.

Obsessed by endless agonized ruminations, demented by pain and a continuum of sleeplessness or

sleepfulness, unable to stand back and see the past, present and future in neutral perspective,

the subject regresses, shedding all but the most primitive defense mechanisms: splitting,

narcissism, dissociation, projective identification, introjection, and cognitive dissonance. The

subject constructs an alternative world, often suffering from depersonalization and

derealization, hallucinations, ideas of reference, delusions, and psychotic episodes.

Sometimes the subject comes to crave pain—very much as self-mutilators do—because it is a proof

and a reminder of his or her individuated existence otherwise blurred by the incessant torture.

Pain shields the sufferer from disintegration and capitulation. It preserves the veracity of his

or her unthinkable and unspeakable experiences.

This dual process of the subject's alienation and addiction to anguish complements the

perpetrator's view of his or her quarry as "inhuman" or "subhuman." The torturer assumes the

position of the sole authority, the exclusive fount of meaning and interpretation, the source of

both evil and good.

Thus, torture seems forever. The sounds, the voices, the smells, the sensations reverberate long

after the episode has ended—both in nightmares and in waking moments. The subject's ability to

trust other people—i.e., to assume that their motives are at least rational, if not necessarily

benign—has been irrevocably undermined. Social institutions are perceived as precariously poised

on the verge of an ominous, Kafkaesque mutation. Nothing is either safe, or credible anymore.


Psychological effects of torture to the tortured

Direct effects
Subjects typically oscillate between emotional numbing and highly sensitive arousal: insomnia,

irritability, restlessness, and attention deficits. Recollections of the traumatic events

intrude in the form of dreams, night terrors, flashbacks, and distressing associations.

Long-term coping mechanisms include the development of compulsive rituals to fend off obsessive

thoughts. Other psychological consequences include cognitive impairment, reduced capacity to

learn, memory disorders, sexual dysfunction, social withdrawal, inability to maintain long-term

relationships, or even mere intimacy, phobias, ideas of reference and superstitions, delusions,

hallucinations, psychotic microepisodes, and emotional flatness.

Depression and anxiety are very common. These are forms and manifestations of self-directed

aggression. The sufferer rages at their own suffering and resulting multiple dysfunction. They

feel shamed by their new disabilities and responsible, or even guilty, somehow, for their

predicament and the dire consequences borne by their nearest and dearest. Their sense of self-

worth and self-esteem are crippled.


Long-term effects
Torture subjects often suffer from a post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Their strong

feelings of hate, rage, terror, guilt, shame, and sorrow are also typical of subjects of

childhood abuse, domestic violence, domestic vice, rape and incest, all contexts which contain

chronic torture too. They feel anxious because the perpetrator's behavior is seemingly arbitrary

and unpredictable—or mechanically and inhumanly regular.

They feel guilty and disgraced because, to restore a semblance of order to their shattered world

and a modicum of dominion over their chaotic life, they need to transform themselves into the

cause of their own degradation and the accomplices of their tormentors.

Inevitably, in the aftermath of torture, its subjects feel helpless and powerless. This loss of

control over one's life and body is manifested physically in impotence, attention deficits, and

insomnia. This is often exacerbated by the disbelief many torture subjects encounter, especially

if they are unable to produce scars, or other "objective" proof of their ordeal. Language cannot

communicate such an intensely private experience as pain.


Social effects
Bystanders resent the tortured because the tortured make the bystanders feel guilty and ashamed

for having done nothing to prevent the atrocity. The sufferers threaten their sense of security

and their much-needed belief in predictability, justice, and rule of law. The sufferers, on

their part, do not believe that it is possible to effectively communicate to "outsiders" what

they have been through. The torture chambers are "another galaxy." This is how Auschwitz was

described by the author K. Zetnik in his testimony in the Eichmann trial in Jerusalem in 1961.

Kenneth Pope, in "Torture," a chapter he wrote for the "Encyclopedia of Women and Gender: Sex

Similarities and Differences and the Impact of Society on Gender," quotes Harvard psychiatrist

Judith Herman:

"It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the

bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The

victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of pain. The victim demands

action, engagement, and remembering."

But, more often, continued attempts to repress fearful memories result in psychosomatic

illnesses (conversion). The subject wishes to forget the torture, to avoid re-experiencing the

often life threatening abuse and to shield their human environment from the horrors. In

conjunction with the subject's pervasive distrust, this is frequently interpreted as

hypervigilance, or even paranoia. It seems that the subject can't win. Torture seems forever

Answer 2

First off, not all women do. Some don't get mad, they get even. Second, why don't you come on over here and see me, I'll get a strap on and we'll see how you feel after I force you into something so intimate against your will, while I threaten your life and the lives of your family, drag you out of a situation you felt was safe and into something completely unknown, smack you around and call you a wh*re, make you think I'm going to kill you when I'm through.. and then let you spend the rest of your life wondering whether or not it's going to happen again when I either don't get caught, or get out of prison after a couple of months and a slap on the wrist. Geez, try putting yourself in someone else's shoes and think about it before you ask a question.

Answer 3

An experience as traumatic as rape get put into the eposodic memory, the storage place for the emotionally intense expereinces we never forget. And any rape victim will probably try to take steps to not get raped again. Also, rapist often closely know their victims, so the victim may develop a reactive fear of closeness and intimacy. Beyond that, I don't pretend to understand the intricasies of female emotion, but rape is a terrible experience any way you slice it. Then again, some freaks actually have rape fantasies. lol

Answer 4

Are you really serious? Do you know how it feels to be held down against your will and have things done to you that you forbid? Are you someone I would have to worry about everytime I turned around. Strap a sign on your back and let it happen to you and then you will truely know how it would feel. I don't know if the crack pipe is empty--but it sounds like you should fill it up--but seriuosly. Think about the nasiest person touching you and you don't want to even shake their hand, let alone let them inside you. It's a lifetime issue--everytime you close your eyes you see it, certain things trigger the feelings you felt at that time--in time you learn to cope-but never get over.

Answer 5

because having sex with us is one thing society has taught us to value about ourselves ("don't give it up or he'll think your loose" attitude and prostitution is the oldest profession). our genitals (or the ability to penetrate us) are often shown as more important than our selves. it is through our genitals and child birth that we acquire some mystique or power. when another human being rapes us, sexually abuses or molests us, part of that power or mystique dies in us. we realize and experience the fact that even without our selves, our genitals really can and will be used. to be reduced to feel that way and using our womanhood against us will cause us to question our very existance. no matter what age she is, rape will CHANGE (not wreck) a woman for her lifetime.

Answer 6

They felt safe in the world before the rape. They thought they had control of their life. The rapist took away their freedom, and made them realize how dirty the world really is. And...whose to say they won't be raped again if they got out of doors, or dress in a pretty dress, etc, etc. The rapist had total control of them, and they had no control to stop it.
Rape should be penalized by life in prison, such as the life they left the girl or woman with.

Answer 7

I suppose if someone reached up and stuck their finger in the corner of your eye and popped the eyeball out of socket, then played with it, or bounced it some, then spit on it, perhaps holding a knife to your throat to get you to sit still while this was going on or a strangle-hold or after beating you senseless for a while. Then that person just popped the eyeball back in the socket, sneered at you for having such an ugly eye, and walked away to act as if they never did, or never possibly could do that.

I bet you'd be over that experience in a few minutes and on with your life as if nothing happened, right?

Answer 8

mmm i can say ive experienced sexual abuse. only now after 6-7 years can i start living a normal life. its reminders in everyday life that haunts them.. not knowing who else will do it.. not being able to control sick thoughts in someone else's mind.. wondering why me?.. if you had someone really control you, and you're absolutely helpless, thats the worst feeling in the world.. then there's the dreams that it'll happen again. the clothes u wore when it happen, its tormenting to the mind. sometimes it feels like a permanent kiss on the neck *an example*. and being held down, seems like an eternity. or the reactions when people find out.. theyre yelling out of anger (and you're so confused that you think its your fault).. mm. then you're scared of stds and pregnancy and whether you'll have to live raising a child that looks identical to your abuser. public nowadays, everything focuses so much on sex, and they wonder why me? why not that easy girl on BET dancing in a bikini.. they wonder how life can be so cruel......... mmm... theres your answer. some can learn to live again by realizing thats life, but they wont ever forget. hence why im going to study to be a psychologist and help abused people.

Answer 9

Thank God....at least there is someone else beside me who thinks deducting the points for asking a question is not a good decision or idea. Actually we are providing platform at wider extent by asking questions....and sadly yahoo personnel penalize us by substracting points from our gains. Instead they should adopt the policy of deducting points of those who use to give silly (and dirty too) answers for wise and informative questions.

Answer 10

I think the same goes for men who get raped as well.

Answer 11

This question is to "The Hitman"...

WAS ALL OF THAT REALLY NECESSARY??!?!?!?!?

as far as the question- Go to jail & get sodomized by someone & tell me if you get over it in a couple hours, days, weeks, months, years, decades, so forth.....