I dont get this...my b/f wants to get married with me when i'll turn 19, this age is sooo young for me to get married, i need to study and become a docter, and i know that my parents will never accept me getting married at such an early age, i love my b/f, he loves me too, he said he can wait for me only for 2 years, and after 2 years i will just turn 19. I asked him to wait for me for atleast 3 years more, but he said that he cant wait for that long...
im just confused why cant he wait for that long
im 17 right now, and he's 24,
i think its ok for a guy to get married at the age of 28 or 29...i dunno why does he want to get married sooo early...n dats y he left me
how shall i talk to him abt this, what shall i say, i dont wanna leave him, and he's not at all talking to me now, his last words were:
"go live ur life and follow ur dreams, im not gonna come b/w u and ur studies and dreams, u're free to do anything"
2006-07-26 10:03:39 · 5 answers · asked by SARA H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'd say be thankful he showed his control issues now.
If he really cared for you, he would wait.
In my case, my girlfriend was a year younger than me when we started dating (I was 19, she was 18). It was during summer vacation that we got together. I was going into my second year of Engineering studies (my first year was pretty lackluster) and she was starting college.
After my second year, I dropped out as my math skills weren't up to the task, but she continued on. All this was in Virginia. After she got her bachelor's degree, she moved to Pennsylvania. We had gotten engaged after 7 months of dating, but she told me my presence was a little distracting. I understood, and so supported her from afar as she continued on. After getting her Master's, she moved to California to work on her doctorate. It was during this time as she was nearing the end of her education that she gave me the ultimatum come to California now, or forget it.
I had just started a new job in an area I had been working towards for a long time here. Anyway, I didn't want to leave here, she didn't want to wait, got married to someone else within the year. It devastated me after a relationship of 11 years. Only in the past three years have we become friends again.
It just illustrates that someone who really cares will be patient. It could be the difference in ages that he's pressuring you, but he still could wait if you were important to him.
Even though it would hurt, dump him, and you'll surely find someone who will support you.
2006-07-26 10:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Carl S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have you're sights set on being a doctor or anything else other than a house wife, then don't waste you're time getting married so young. To many people do that and regret it later, and you know what happens once they have kids? They end up resenting the kids for holding them back. If you don't think you're ready for this, then have the conviction to tell this guy to back off, and go out and live you're life.
2006-07-26 10:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As painful as that's, you may enable him circulate and stay your guy or woman existence. You 2 of course choose countless issues. in case you have been to provide up your aspirations for him, you may basically be bitter interior the top. stay at college, concentration on your self, and verify out to locate somebody else. once you're youthful, this is confusing to be in a dating with somebody who's severely older b/c you're in distinctive stages of your existence. As you become older, that age distinction ingredient diminishes. i'm 30...my husband's 36...and it would not make lots of a distinction. i won't think of dating him while i exchange into 17 and he exchange into 23, it never could have worked.
2016-11-03 01:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His inability to understand your feelings would not bode well for a long-term relationship. A seven year age difference is a lot at your age IMHO. He might be ready for marriage, but, at 17, you have a way to go. Stick to your guns. Let him go and do what you want to do for school and career. There will surely be other bfs in your life down the road.
2006-07-26 10:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by G.V. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to to what is best for you that sounds like you need to follow your dream you will find other men that would Waite for and support you in your goals
2006-07-26 10:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by BlueBoar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋