My friend is a sweet young lady , 20 years old and I'm 59 ! We talk and she makes me feel good about myself . She makes me want to feel like a man again , is that wrong ?
2006-07-26 10:01:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can't say it's wrong. However, I can understand why you may feel like a fool when she could easily be your granddaughter.
Is she looking for a surrogate father figure in you? I'm sure you're a nice man, and you probably know how to behave well...unlike most men her age. But what exactly do you have in common? Okay..you probably treat her well and she feels safe and secure with you. And you probably feel pretty stud-ly that this 20 year old wants to be with you.
However, above and beyond that....the reality is, you really need to discuss the reality. You're near retirement...she hasn't lived yet. She may want children...and do you really want to have to support children another 20+ years? If you get sick, is she really going to want to put up with the "for worse" part of it?
She may say "yes", but I wonder if the reality may not be a little more harsh than she's prepared for.
(*shrug*) I know I just seriously rained on your parade...but I think you should really look at it and both need to make sure this makes sense. If it works out...congratulations!
2006-07-26 10:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, thank your lucky stars! Yeah, yeah, she's young enough to be your granddaughter. Big woop. As long as it's not an abusive relationship, ain't nobodys business but yours and hers. I, at 48, had a torrid romance with a woman of 22. She LIKED older men! We parted only when she had to travel back home to the opposite coast to attend a terminally ill parent and we could't afford to maintain the relationship. Frankly, most young people can't picture themselves in an intimate relationship where the age differences are as great as they were with me and my gf or you and yours. But there are exceptions now and then, and that's just fine! I knew a filthy rich old coot who married a nineteen-year-old. He said "I know d a m n well she may be in it for my money, and that's just fine. I can't take it with me and I've spent a lot of my money giving to various worthy causes. She makes me happy!" The old coot died just before their third anniversary, and she wound up with the major share of his money. Now she looks like, and is worth, a million dollars! Actually, it was a lot more than a million...so what? His money, his choice! Go for it, granpa! I would...
2006-07-26 10:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you found someone that can make you feel this way.
I don't see anything wrong with, as long as she feels the same way AND you are in no way in a position of power or authority over her (coworker, etc).
That said, enjoy and have fun. I would also add to find out how her parents feel, if they are still around. Making them at ease, might help everything.
2006-07-26 10:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Matthew M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, just go with it.
Does she want to get naked with you.
Get a viagra and rock that!
Just dont fall in love with her or do stupid things trying to be a 25 year old, you will get hurt emotionally or physically.
2006-07-26 12:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful she's not a gold digger. Um, yeah, that's all I got to say on this one.
2006-07-26 10:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey Pat
if you need to ask about love, it just might not be strong enough, if you want anything to happen, want it
Luv Pat
2006-07-26 10:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by patflo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-26 10:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she is young enough to be your daughter.
2006-07-26 10:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋