I would like to have a baby now, but my husband said he wants to wait another year, so I agreed I haven’t bugged him about it since our talk.
I love him and don’t want to pressure him into doing something when he may resent me (or a baby) for it later!
I have some immature friends who are pressuring their partners for children.
One friend has known her boyfriend for 1 year. She is fighting with him non-stop because he wants to wait until they are married, but she continued to pressure him. He finally caved in because he was worried she would leave him!
Another friend, before she married her husband, agreed to have only one child. She had one baby and she decided she wanted another one, he said no more. So she “forgot” to take her birth control for 3 months and didn’t tell her husband. She’s pregnant now.
What is wrong with these people? I know men do it too, but it always seems like women are throwing themselves into bad situations ON PURPOSE!
What do you think?
2006-07-26 09:59:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think that is very childish. It's very selfish to trap someone into a situation just b/c it's something that you want. Being in a relationship is all about compromise, if your partner is not ready for children or wants only a certain amount you should respect their wishes...
2006-07-26 10:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are doing the right thing! Don't pressure him. When ya'll are BOTH ready for that next step in your lives then that is the time. Right now, while there is no baby, you can plan!! And planning so extensive. You can plan a nursery and colors and whether you wnat to breastfeed or formula. Start interviewing and asking questions about peditricians. They will totally respect what you are doing. You sound like your heart is in the right place when it comes to loving your husband and his thoughts and feelings about fatherhood. Don't get sucked into the pressure came bc your friend is being pushy. Respect your partner and love the time you have together without a child!
2006-07-26 10:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a relationship, you can't lie, period. By having a child that your partner doesn't want you're not only causing distrust and resentment in your relationship, but you're also bringing a child into a world where it will be unwanted and possibly resented for its entire life. Why would anyone want to do that to their own kid?
You get an A+ on the internet for being willing to compromise and listen to your husband, and also for realizing that waiting for your baby won't make you love him or her any less. Good luck, when the time comes. :)
2006-07-26 10:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is wrong to pressure someone into something that will affect three people for the rest of their lives (mom, dad and baby). These things should be discussed before marriage.
2006-07-26 10:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by Double 709 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he wants to wait a year , first you have to get pregnant which lets say takes 3 months and the baby takes 9 months. so there its a year. Explain that to him. Good luck
2006-07-26 10:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by natalie rose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People just need to grow up and recgonize that babies are a lot of responsibility and two people need to agree to have one.
For you, try to talk with your husband. He wants to wait a year and you want now, so you should be able to get to 6 months or so.
2006-07-26 10:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋