ladies who flirt w/their men friends, other than their SO can you explain how its harmless and playful only?

Question

nothing too graphic but saying to a guy friend when you see them you say something like "hey you id love a bite of ya"!
whats the most daring form of flirtation you use? playful words hugs or lil kisses? do you say "thats ok" in your mind bc you know yourself & the guy. and you know he wont take it as serious advances? how does your SO feel when you do this or do they accept you trusting in you regardless of how the other guy takes it. also, were you like this from the beginning of your relationship? if so, does it matter or not?

is it true that it doesnt matter that you dont really mean anything youre just goofying with a friend. or is there a line you shouldnt cross, in playful words?

its not the froends who are uncomfy its my SO. but they knew i was so b4 we began dating. i spend all my time with them but still attract new friends all the time. but i am a mentor as well. so, they do come and go in and out of my life. my SO def trusts me, they think i wont be able to resist all advances from everyone. which is nonsense, no one makes me change my core values.

Answer 1

I have a male friend who is gay we have been friends since before we could talk (our moms are best friends) We joke with one another we will say something like meet you in the bedroom in 10 minuets but then we both start laughing till it hurts because we don't like each other that way plus he is gay and I'm a female but we are best friends so we just joke about it if that makes any sense at all

Answer 2

If it makes someone uncomfortable, you've crossed the line. Do any of the spouses frown, or get suddenly silent when you flirt? Do people you used to see more of no longer want to be in your company?

You sound like an extroverted person - outgoing, lively, active. That's fine, but understand that other people have different personalities and different ways of looking at the world. If you want to count some of them as friends, you have to respect their feelings, rather than force them to accept your ideas of what's harmless.