Married Men and Strip Clubs?

Question

Today I found out my so called husband went to a strip club..He spent a lot of money there..He lied and said he doesn't go to ti**y bars cause he can come home to me..Do you think its wrong for married men to go to those places? I also found he went with one of his friends bar hoppin he said he didnt go to the strip club but his friends did and one slept with a stripper..Should I believe he lied about his friend and it was actually HIM..one night i found a condom wrapper stuck to his skin when he took his shirt off ..he blamed that on his guy friend.. what all do you think about him?i know what i think, but what do you? No he aint gay

Answer 1

WOW the guy is a skank. My fiance says he can't get a hard on going to places like that and just DOESN'T go b/c he's satisfied and happy with me AND HE LIVES IN NORWAY AND I LIVE IN AMERICA SO WE HARDLY SEE EACH OTHER AND WE ARE SEX DEPRIVED ALL THE TIME. But we don't go out seeing others weither at a strip club or down the street.
I think your husband is lying to you (the condom excuse is pathetic). He's a married man wtf is he doing with "friends" like that who will take him to places that where he could make big mistakes? His friends don't respect you if they are going to these places with him.
He shouldn't feel the need to go get off on another woman. It's base of him and unfaithful. You need to try and talk to him and find out if he's just a jerk who likes to lust after other woman or if there is something missing or wrong in ya'lls relationship.
Good luck girl! I hope things work out!!!

Answer 2

Wow, well I don't see anything wrong with husband's going to strip clubs as long as their truthful about it. Now I would have to say that in your particular case with him lying about going to the bars and the clubs he is most likely lying about the condom and such. Be very careful because if he is sleeping around he may bring home something for you. As far as strip clubs many couples go together or women take classes to put on a show for their husband. It is hard when the trust isn't there to feel comfortable letting your husband go to a club or bar for that matter. Oh and if you think something is going on it probably is.

Answer 3

I had one answer all set up for you until I got to the part about the condom. I have been to very nice strip clubs and never once has the need for a condom "come up" so to speak. Girl, your guy is hiding something. Two "guys" DON'T stick condoms to each other.

Answer 4

Go with your gut feeling... Sounds like there's a bigger problem than going to a strip club once. What does it say about a person if he regularly hangs out with people who make it their lives to go to strip clubs and bars, anyway? I think he's plain immature, and he chooses immature friends to match. Help him grow up.

Answer 5

Hi there!
First let me tell you that I am stripper.
Wait!
Don't hate me.
Let me also tell you that I am happily married.
I work at both strip clubs and with
bachelor party companies.
Most clubs and parties are harmless fun.
Depending on where you live,
some clubs even have strict "no touching" policies.
(Those are the best kind for married couples
who simply want to look.)
Because I'm married and a romantic at heart,
I always talk to the married men about their wives.
I get curious as to why they are there.
Some go once every couple months or once a year
because of some special occasion like
their best friend gettting married
or perhaos a company party.
Most of the married men that I talk to are
very respectful and are not looking for hanky-panky.
They love their wives very much
and are only having some innocent fun.
In fact, most of them tell me they wish they could
bring their wives in with them.
Men find this to be a HUGE turn-on in your favor
if you accompany them to a strip club.
If you are confident enough about yourself
and his his love for you,
this is majorly sexy to him.
He wants you to go there so maybe
you can learn a couple moves and use them on him
when the two of you return home.
I see lots of girlfriends and wives
go to strip clubs with their man
and it's so endearing to me because
they will hold hands and smile at one another
while watching a girl on stage or
perhaps even getting a couple's lap dance.
In fact, it's funny to me because the women
get into more than the men do!
And you know what?
It turns their man on so much that,
as soon as they get home,
you know that bed's going to be rocking!
BUT not every married man has good intentions.
Some go to cheat on their wives.
If this is the case,
it's normally because the man is either
really insecure about himself or
because his woman has not given it to him
in months and he's lonely.
Or maybe he's just a scumbag.
I don't like the fact that your husband has been lying to you.
It makes him look untrustworthy.
The only way for you to find out for sure
is to test him.
Tell him you want to go to a bar or strip club with him.
If he seems excited about it,
take that as a good sign.
It means he wants to share his life with you!
I mean, he might be surprised about your offer,
but as long as he seems PLEASANTLY surprised,
you know that you have a chance to strengthen your relationship.
But if he acts weird and uncomfortable about it,
then it's probably because he has something to hide.
In that case,
I would hire some private eyes to watch his every move!
Or maybe even have a friend of yours trick him into thinking she's a stripper that will do "private parties."
Or, if you know you're man's going to go to a club,
either dress up so he won't recognize you or have one of your friends go so she can give one of the stripper's
a handheld voice recording machines
and ask her to help you catch your man in the act.
Have her pick your man out, flirt with him,
then offer him "extras" in the private dance area.
Most girl's would be more than happy to help out
because we've all been there!
If someone seems hesitant,
it's probably because she is money hungry.
So simply offer her between $20-$100 for her help.
(Whatever you can offord.)
It will be money well spent, I promise!
Proof is what's going to give you everything you need.
Then dump his a** because you deserve much better!
But hopefully it doesn't come to that.
Either way, good luck, hun! :)

Answer 6

I have been married for 12 years and i hit the nudie clubs every once in a while. You know he aint gettin any luv there, why worry?

Answer 7

I would be worried about the condom but if you wanna keep him happy at home, strip for him, just ask him what he wants.. And make sure he's not cheating on you..

Answer 8

There's nothing wrong with Strip Clubs, they are marriage enhancers.

Answer 9

i don't have a problem with my husband going to strip clubs at all...but...the big difference here is that he doesn't lie about it, and he doesn't come home with condom wrappers as accessories for his outfit....lose him.

Answer 10

sounds like he is bored. talk to him and see what he needs if you love him that is. do also make sure to look around n snoop and make sure he isnt cheating though. strip clubs are like going to a great buffet and then being told you cant taste anything presented, they get boring after awhile.