MY BOYFRIEND OF 4YRS (WE HAVE LIVED TOGETHER FOR 2), JUST JOINED THE MARINES. HE WILL BE GONE FOR 3 MO. AND THEN 56 WEEKS. IF WE GET MARRIED I CAN MOVE WITH HIM AFTER THE 3 MO. IF NOT IT IS MORE THAN A YEAR WITHOUT HIM, ONLY SEEING HIM ON HOLIDAYS. BY THE WAY IM 19. SO TO GET MARRIED OR NOT TO GET MARRIED?
2006-07-26 09:16:09 · 11 answers · asked by Alisa Lyn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who you marry is one of the most important choices you'll ever make. Of course if he's the right guy, then he's the right guy...just make sure the current situation doesn't force you into a decision you're not ready to make.
BTW- statically, your chances for divorce are much higher if you get married under the age of 20 (I don't know why that 20th birthday makes such a big difference, but it does).
Best wishes.
2006-07-26 10:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by daisyk 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Its a good theory if you're smart about it. Have a communique beforehand you flow in at the same time figuring out the logistics of all of it. communicate about how a lot lease each and every will pay, the way you'll divide charges and groceries, the way you'll make judgements, no matter if there'll be any particular guidelines. in case you form all that our first, then disagreements wont arise as a lot alongside the way. BTW, marriage shouldnt change each and every thing besides, in case you assume it to then you fairly will be disapointed because it isn't a paranormal ingredient that makes each and every thing change, why ought to it?
2016-10-15 05:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years of dating, including 2 of living together is plenty of time to know if you want to marry him. If you love him and want to marry him, go for it. If you have serious doubts about it, don't. but, if you don't you should have an open relationship. It is unrealistic for either of you at your young ages to wait that long and be alone. If it is in the cards for you two, it will happen, if not, it is better to know now.
2006-07-26 09:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of how long you have been together, 19 is too young to get married. Also if you are questioning whether or not it is the right decision at this time, that typically means it isn't. If it is true love it will withstand the military.
2006-07-26 09:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by hipchic_inhiding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! Everyone I know who got married this young is divorced and now refer to it as their "starter" or "practice" marriage. Marrying into the military makes it even harder. You will end up thousands of miles from your family and he will leave to go overseas. You will be alone. Military personnel have a very HIGH rate of divorce.
2006-07-26 11:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell if he is the one. You are too young to get married. If you truly love each other and it is meant to be then when he comes home your love for each other will be just as strong if not stronger. Wait and see what happens.
2006-07-26 09:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by wannaseeprettypnk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why rush into marriage? Plenty of time for that... wait until you are 25 and have a stable job/life b4 getting married... if he is still around then, have him get you a nice big ring and then get married...
2006-07-26 09:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by Billy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say marry him...if you love him (like you do) then do it! if you don't want it public and want to wait for a big wedding but you still want to be able to have the choose to move with him in 3 months then do it secretly (court wedding) and when he gets back plan a big wedding if you want one. thats just one option. i say go for it!
2006-07-26 09:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by PuertoRicanLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about wether or not you can see yourself with this guy for the rest of your life. and wether or not you feel old enough to make the commitment marriage requires. if your love him and can see yourself with him for the rest of your life go for it if you have any doubts wait
2006-07-26 09:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by jory1601 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get married
2006-07-26 20:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋