How to make a happy married life.... a loving wife?

Question

What are the basic steps for both husband and wife.....

Answer 1

I am young and married for almost two years now...I have learned 2 important things along the way.

1) The day before I got married my mom gave me some great advice. Marriage is like a job, you have to work on it everyday. She is right, if you go to work and not make an effort to do what you can and do what you are suppose to do. You job is going to suffer, just like if you "give up" in you marriage of "get comfy" things over time will fall apart.

2) This is probably the best advice on life in general, but really comes to play in a marriage. Before my husband and I could get married in our church we had to take these "marriage classes" they sound stupid but they were actually awesome. The advice I got came from a game we played. You sit in chairs back to back from each other. Pick on object to explain to the other person how to drawn. (Example: cow, pig, animal of sorts, house, sun, lighthouse, objects like that) without telling your spouse/partner what the object is explain how to draw it. (You can't use words, just shapes) Like for a cow, first draw a long-wide oval in the middle of the page....blah blah blah...! Now, have your spouse do the same to you and your object.

In the end, show each other. You will be amazed on what you see.

Point is: just because you think you explain something clear, is NOT always the case. I thought I would turn around to see my future husband holding a piece of paper with a perfect constructed cow on it....yeah, not so.

Again, thinking you are clean don't actually mean you are clear to someone else.

Once I got home I framed our demented cow and deformed light-house and placed them over our bed...just as a small reminder.

Good luck and god bless!!

Answer 2

If you understand who the person you married is, you are half way there. You must work with what you have chosen. Take the flaws in your husband and accept them, as long as they don't harm the marrage. If you divide the chores and you find that while you get your's done he isn't getting his done. Find a way to do the chores together, and provide a reward for it's completion, but not sex. "If we get this done now, we'll have time to take a ride after". If he wants to talk listen, and he will talk. Don't make your partner defensive. Insist on mutual respect. Tell him what you really want, don't make him guess because he won't. Give him your trust and faith. Give him pats on the back, a man likes to know that what he does is valued. Get pats on the back. Build memories together. Never talk to anyone about what goes on in your marrage, unless there is a dangerous action being commited. Marrage is much more than love, and sex. Remember you are different people and you will naturally have disagreements. Don't make them arguements. I know from experience that a wife can get her husband to do anything if she approaches him in the right way.

Answer 3

Sex often......My wife and I have been married for 25 years and still have sex 5 times a week...Why? because it is a physical communication, very intimate. Couples tend to ignore it. Communication is important but not as much as having that intimate time with each other to re-establish your bond on a daily basis.

Answer 4

for both people its simple...live each day as if you are serving each other. Make that your focus, and you will be happy. Clean the house as a service, work as a service, everything.

Answer 5

GOOD communication....I mean great communication will keep a marriage last longer maybe for ever....the sex might not even do it good....thanks for asking the question...I was about to ask tht too....

Answer 6

Communication, great sex ,don't ever take each other for granted, tell each other that you love eachother every day, honesty, and most of all love

Answer 7

making each other a priority, comminication, the little things

Answer 8

a lot of communication

Answer 9

COMMUNICATION, GREAT SEX,