When I was 16. my best friend passed away. I am 21 now and I still find it hard to deal with. Infact- it seems the more time goes by, the more I miss her and the harder it gets. Has anyone else ever experienced losing someone close?? How do you cope?
2006-07-26 08:55:33 · 16 answers · asked by nat_00420 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Yes, several and as time passes it will get easier. I have lost over 15 very good friends and my mother and my wife. The only thing which really helps me is my belief in God and heaven. I know they are truly better off where they are than here suffering with the rest of us because even the best existence here is no where near as good as a bad day in heaven.
2006-07-26 09:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Big Daddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear. Sorry to hear that. I have lost a friend too. she met with an accident.She was more than an friend in fact. I just had proposed to her my love for her and she accepted. Just imagine my state when she died just an week after she accepted my love. I not cope up with that for a long time. But the thing is you have to move over in life. You definelty might not have an another person who might be like her but you will find someone who might remind you of her. Anyways as she is your friend, your best friend as you say she did not leave you. She is with you infact. In you. Everytime you think about her she breathes. Love life to Live life said a great person. Keep remembering her, but do something for her. I want to build an hospital at the place where she died due to lack of proper hospitalization facilities. also i am planning to put up an orphanage. Though i am still 22 i am planning to do this for her.
Think about what i said.
2006-07-26 16:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Tazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost by best friend when I was 20 he was 21. He was a very good person and for some reason I don't feel like he is gone. He is like an angel to me. I think about him often, I even ask him for advice and so on. I'm 32 now and only have good memories. For some strange reason I didn't mourn very long for him. Like I said I feel like he is still here. I guess we all have different methods of coping.
2006-07-26 16:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Odie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost a close friend when I was 13 (March) and my sister (October) seven months later and then my grandmother (November)... that was a hard year 1990.
Take it one day at a time, and each day the pain gets less and less though the hole never really goes away. Sometimes you have to force yourself to go on and make new relationships and make existing ones stronger. If you don't move on, your reality will continue be stuck in the past.
2006-07-26 16:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by mortilyn77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost a friend. My best friend. I grieved hard. It's been 12 years and I had to gradually let time fill in the blank spots. I still have moments where I have to just be alone and deal with the emotions that occur.
2006-07-26 16:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my best friend of 38yrs. last June 2nd. I miss him very
much. It hurt terribly at first. Then I started thinking of him as an
Angel. With the ability to be everywhere I am. So when I 'd go
out to do something I know He would've enjoyed, I feel He is
there with me. It helps to feel this way. In fact, I used this same
technique when my Grandmother died. It works for me.
I'm not in denial, I'm coping.
2006-07-27 08:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by anitababy.brainwash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to answer due to the the callousness of the other answerer's. I lost a dear friend to suicide going on three years now. It really doesn't seem to get any easier. However, (this may sound silly) I talk to him when I'm really depressed and yearning for our friendship. Somehow this seems to comfort me. I imagine what he would say. It helps to believe that life doesn't stop when we die.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-26 16:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had one great friend in my life, and where he hasn't died he is still essentially gone - I haven't seen him since I was 23 and I'm 38 now. I miss his ageless wisdom and personality and think of him quite often. It builds who we are when we think of others, it causes us to do things that we wouldn't have done otherwise. It would be more terrible to not think of them than to remember them for who they were and how they helped make us who we are today.
I hope this helps in some way.
As a final note, it isn't healthy to dwell on such thoughts negatively. Try to make it a pleasant experience when you think about her. Think about the good times.
2006-07-26 16:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Nientech 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iv have lost 3 family members and 2 friends. i lost all of them from the ages of 11-14. i remember all the good times we had and i keep them alive in my heart and just try to think of other things
2006-07-26 16:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've lost my fair share of loved ones and unfortunatly its not something that you can just "get over" as so many people seem to think is the answer...
1. i want to apologize for those other rude comments that they decided to post as answers
2. i want you to know that i will pray for you
3. basically (even though its extremely hard and seems impossible) you have to just try to move on, never forget them but you can't not live your life...i bet that even though they are gone, they don't want you to just sit around and sulk about them ya know? cherish every single memory that you have of them and try to just keep on living life and having fun...its healthy to still miss them but its not to remain sad...if you must go with what the other person said, pretend they're still around in a way, pray, if you don't pray then just act like you're talking to them, or even get a journal or diary and act like you're writing to them about your life/thoughts/whatever you want really
hope this helps...GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-07-26 16:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋