i now kids need a father but to many girls let their boyfriends make decision for them . i am single and about to have a baby in oct i will do what i would have to do whether my bf is there or not.ihave my own place got my permit work . alot of girls ask questions like i dont wont my boyfriend to leave me if i decide to keep the baby dont you have a mind of your own?i broke up with my baby father dont girls know that you should never depend on a man cause he can up and leave you and your kid at any point in time what will you do then?
2006-07-26 08:50:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
oh my dad finicially supported me but i dont have a close relationship. my mom took care of me and my bros by herself she is very independent. you stupid if you depend on a man he gonna be there forever you living in your own world. yea in oct i will see its hard but still aint gonna have a baby to keep a man like some dumb females do. i am gonna have an abortion cause my bf dont want it thats crazy. whoever is talking crap i bet i be a way better mother than you.
2006-07-26 09:03:33 · update #1
yea it is nice that when you have someone to support you if two can do it that is nice more power to yall but if not u have to take responsibility for your child with or without help. im very independent and not everyone stay with their baby father. guys change like you change your draws.
2006-07-26 09:13:21 · update #2
I don't believe that the father has to be there. I am a young, single mother and am doing just fine. I currently am still living with my parents but am moving out in september (i'm 21). I was in school even when I was pregnant and when my son was born (but i took 2 weeks off after giving birth). I am starting school again on october 1st, but not full time because I need to spend time with my son. I'm interested in real estate and know that it's not such a hard job and you make good money, but untill I finish school and get a good, real job, i'll go back to working in a bookstore (as i did in 2005). I've got everything planned out and I still have enough time to bond with my son. While i'm at work, or at school (in the future), my parents will be taking care of him- i don't trust day cares.
Anyway, good luck with everything! I don't know about your life but please know that you can be a great single mother without any problems. I would be very happy if a man came along and loved me and accepted and loved my baby boy, that would be great! BUT...untill then, i'm fine as a single mother... And you will be too!
2006-07-26 09:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well some people were not raised to be independent some ppl live in reality. I think if you are not concerned that the father is not going to be there with you to raise the child you are not thinking it all the through! I mean I got pregnant at 17 and I was blessed to be able to marry the father but if I hadn't I would be scared to raise a baby alone. I would be the only one responsible for that child when they got sick I would have to deal with it , if they needed food it would be my problem at the end of working all day I would not have any one to vent to I would be stuck and have no help no support from the person that I was in love with and had the baby with. I think you are being naive. It is often better to have two parents raising the baby there are too many reasons for me to explain why some girls think this way but let me tell you NO ONE should judge them!
2006-07-26 16:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by BestM&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I agree with you somewhat......
I grew up only seeing my dad occasionly and I never really cared to much about it..My mum was a great influence to me and although she may not have always dont things the right way I am now a decent and caring person...I have respect and thats because I had a loving family...I see my dad still and talk sometimes but I wouldnt change it for anything...My mum got married to another man 11 years ago and hes great too..He was an influence aswell..So really it just depends..If you are strong enough to do it then more to you but if the dads there, then I dont see anything wrong with it...And like Sam(barney) said wait until oct when the baby is screaming and you're the only one there and you havent slept in days...good luck!
2006-07-26 16:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf may not be the best "male" influence on your baby, but children do need the balance that having both a male and female around will provide. Children with two parents feel more secure and demonstrate higher levels of self-confidence and self-esteem. If your bf isn't the man you would like to have in your child's life, then look to a father, brother, uncle or close male family friend to take this role. It will make a huge difference in your child's life.
2006-07-26 16:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by KTScarlet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have an older and younger brother. None of us have the same father. My older brother moved to california to live with his dad, My brother and I lived with our mom here in milwaukee. The little brothers dad passed and my father was a dead-beat. So my mom raised us on her own. She worked 60 hours a week and was a full time college student! She had my oldest brother when she was 19 and now is the president of a huge insurance company. Woman do NOT NEED MEN!
2006-07-26 16:06:53 · answer #5 · answered by natalie rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you.
To many women think that they need a man in their life especially where kids are concerned.
I learned along time ago that you can and should never depend on a man. You never know when they are going to walk out the door and leave you or when you are going to decide to leave them because of certain situations.
Women need to depend on themselves. Get an education, be able to support yourself and your child and learn to be totally independent.
Then.........if you find someone to share your life with it will not be on the grounds that you NEED them. It will be because you WANT them. And that in itself will make your relationship stronger and more solid.
I am a firm believer in the old saying..........you must first love yourself before you can expect anyone else to love you.
Ladies......get out there and be independent, depend on yourselves, take care of your children yourselves, and then when you find love it will be for all the right reasons. Not the wrong ones.
2006-07-26 16:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree. i hav 2 kids and both fathers r deadbeats. i do a great job raising my sons on my own with no help from my bf. a lot of mothers r being single moms by choice, and if u can do it on ur own then all power 2 u. its just nice 2 have someone there to support u though. good luck and congratulations on ur baby, i hope everything works out 4 u.
2006-07-26 15:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by shadowpaws2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say I'd let the guy make the decision for me, but it would be much more comforting to know I had his support. Raising a baby is never easy. It's especially hard to do on your own.
2006-07-26 15:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why girls should choose carefully who they mate with. Pick a guy who is grown up, responsible, is a good provider, has the same morals and values you do, has the same ideas on how to raise a child that you do. And make sure you are grown up enough to judge these things in a potential mate.
2006-07-26 15:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom was a single parent and I will tell you this I felt like I missed out on not having a father figure around. I would probably trust guys more if I had a father figure in my life. My mom decided after my father died not remarry. I think that was a poor decision on her part, but she did what she thought was best. *shrug*
2006-07-26 15:56:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋