I love my hubby, but I think women are so hot. They turn me on so much. More than my husband does. But my hubby is a really good man. He's a great husband. He even accepts the fact that I am bisexual. I don't mess around with other women, but sometimes I want to so bad I almost can't take it. What do you think I should do? Some times it's more than I can bare.
2006-07-26 08:43:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Note: I have not acted on this, but really want to.
2006-07-26 08:48:59 · update #1
what time would you like me over?
2006-07-26 08:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by jack_and_jill420 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you ought to mull things over and determine whether you'd be happier in a relationship with a woman or whether it's just sheer curiosity. If it's just curiosity you could always find a way to spice things up with your hubby by suggesting a three-way with a g/f you may find, that is if he's up for that. Otherwise if you think you're really into women more so than men then it's time to let the good man go so you don't cause him any emotional grief later on. That's not to say divorce will be trouble-free but it'll be better for the both of you in the long run.
2006-07-26 15:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by elwingman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! we're in the same boat except for the being married part and girls turning me on more than my man. that's actually some pretty serious stuff. women are hot aren't they! hehe i know that he accepts your being bi but have you ever proposed a menage trois to him? is the type of guy that loves you so much that he won't even let you do that? my b/f doesn't really want to cuz he's afraid that i'll get mad n jealous... you know like a normal girl would but i promised him i wouldn't. i actually read some good advice about threesomes. have the girlfriend/wife pick the girl, introduce the girl to your hubby/boyfriend but he can never know her name or any kind of personal information about her ever and definitely NO KISSING during your rendevous. and then when the kinky deeds are done, have your man take you out so that you know you're the only girl for him. i dunno though it may be different cuz you guys are married but i think you can spice up your sex life when you want to right? at any rate, try asking him about the 3some and see what he says an if not, get yourself some girl-on-girl action by way of dvd and a nice little toy and have at it.
2006-07-26 15:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bi or not. You are married and any activities with anyone other than your husband will be demeaning to your relationship with him. That's not religious. If you are going to cheat, you should not have gotten married. I applaud you however, for not acting on your desires that shows that you do care about yourself and your hubby. There are so many things that married couples can do now days such as toys, etc. Maybe a little role playing needs to be added to spice things up a bit. These are just suggestions.
2006-07-26 16:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have options. You can talk to hubby and express your needs and seek his consent to pursue it OR you could open up the option for involving women in your sex life with him if he is ok with that. Just do not isolate or exclude him! If all else fails then it is up to you to decide which is more important to you...your fancy or your life with the man you love.
2006-07-26 15:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay married to a loving husband you won't sleep with anyone else, regardless of gender, because it is sure to damage your relationship with him. This remains true even if he (foolishly) agrees to the idea of "threesomes," as some have suggested. It just doesn't work out in the long run.
2006-07-26 16:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if he were attracted to other men in the same way you find yourself attracted to other women? What's good for you, should always be good for the other person.
Only you and your husband can work this out, so talk to him and find out where he stands on this subject.
2006-07-26 16:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by rascal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he already knows that you're bisexual, why don't you suggest to him to bring in another woman to spice up the sex life? many sex therapists suggest that doing something new and refreshing could be good for both partners. that way, you're not cheating and your husband knows exactly what's going on. you guys could always become swingers. that way you can meet other women who are bisexual and do your thing, and then you return to your husband at night.
2006-07-26 15:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by sweeternity2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is more than you can bear that means you've cheated and been with other woman already. if you havent, then you have yet to succumb. take it one day at a time, talk to him about your desires always! even of them, he will love ad support you and you will get satisfaction 2gether. Good Luck Hope you don't let a desire ruin your relationship. but if you are, please tell him so and separate divorce if you must cheat but talk it thru w/him no matter what you decide to do!
2006-07-26 17:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Spock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a fantasy or have you acted this out? We all have fantasies and it is healthy for your realtionship to share them. We all wonder sometimes and fantasize all the time, its normal. You dont want to risk what you have with your husband do you? Talk to him share it with him, maybe he will be open to it, or you may just have to keep your fantasy to yourself to avoid hurting the one you love the most :) Good luck!
2006-07-26 15:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by slf620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your husband knows that you are bi then he should also understand your urges to be with other women. Discuss how you are feeling and see if he is interested in experimenting with another women. Honesty is key here.
2006-07-26 15:55:13 · answer #11 · answered by cass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋