When I get back at school I want to be treated decently. I have broke the problem into this: rumors->bullies->lack of friends->bullies->rumors->and the cycle goes on. the root of the problem is rumors. Can anyone give me some advice on stopping rumors?
2006-07-26 08:38:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Just ignore them. Just because someone says/thinks something DOESN'T make it true.
2006-07-26 08:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if someone spreads a rumor about you, the truth is, that it is hard to stop sometimes. If you get all worked up about it, and start yelling at people to shut-up, that's not the way to go. Usually a bully starts a rumor, but if you learn how to deal with a bully, they'll leave you alone, and you can enjoy your life with your friends. Bullies usually like to bully other people because they think it's fun to see when people suffer, or they are haveing a problem with their confidence and how they look at themselves. Bullies like to take thier problems out on their victims, and when they see them suffer, they get happier. So, the next time a bully starts annoying you, or insulting you, actually try to go along with the insult. Pretend it is a compliment, and tell them of how you agree. DON'T BE AFRAID TO LAUGH AT YOURSELF! When the bully sees that you are not being insulted or offended by them, they'll slowly start losing interest in bullying you. So, if you pretend their insults don't affect you, and go along with it, as if it were a joke, they'll eventually leave you alone and go harass someone that IS afraid to laugh at themselves. If you have to bully problem solved, then you'll get less rumors passed around about you, and the more you can be happy, and make new friends! And it does also help if you don't spread other rumors around yourself. Some one could be walking in your shoes some time. And if you still are having trouble stopping rumors spreading about you, just tell a parent, teacher, or counselor. They will surely stop it for once and for all!
Good luck! And I hope I helped you! :)
2006-07-26 08:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by lalala <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, sweetie. I'm a grade school teacher, and i know this can be tough. Listen, you can't stop what people say, but you can choose how you react. If you get upset or angry, you're giving the bullies what they want. If you ignore the problem, that can be hard too.
What you can try is taking it less seriously. If something gets said that you don't like, make a joke about it. Be able to laugh at yourself, and the bullies will have no where to go with their teasing. Trust me, this works. Of course, if the bullying gets physical, or if things are being said that are affecting your ability to eat, study, sleep, or do your normal activities, talk to an adult you trust. Hang in there! Kids can be mean -- show you are a great kid yourself and you'll come out on top!
2006-07-26 08:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im the Queen at this one: At work I was the only Gay Bi-sexual sl-t around...Those in the media,, tend to belive each other so I was a lier made semi public .
ppl idiolise images who do no wrong. Mine got out of control.
If people cant go to the scource for their information that they have to gossip to make themselves look better in someone elses eye, then they are not much a person.
Most people who do this, if asked.. they will not know the person being gossiped about personaily .. ask "How do you know this as fact?" "are you a friend, or is it hear say?" Hun ignore them, dont spread anything you hear about. If anyone upsets you just say "DO I know you" , In some situations it could be started by someone who likes you wanting a rise" out of you cause he knows it will upset you.. Or a friend upset wantting attention. Just ignore dont pass the buck and it will go away..Youre school councils are there to help assist you futher and get to the root of the problem (Or principal) Parent-teacher confrences another. (I hope this works)
2006-07-27 04:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by Weeny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not being treated with respect - people create rumours and lies about someone when they jealous or wanting to deflect crap in their own lives -
You need to get the respect back - show them that creating rumours and talking about you wont be stood for - you could tell on them - but usually that makes matters worse im afraid (it sucks i know), go out this summer and do everything you can to make other friends - people who are gonna get to know the real you, a mini support network - when you go back to school - laugh - look happy, just involve yourself with new friends - every time a nasty rumour comes your way - or one of these people hurts or bullies you, stand up , look them in the eye, and make it clear your glad they so fasinated with your life that they cant stop talking about you - if bullies are aggressive, hun i hate to say you gotta fight back - you gotta get teh respect - but try and keep level dont go in there punching and throwing things around - - just be prepared to defend yourself.
Learn to love yourself and laugh in their face - the happier you are, the more frustrated and upset the nasty people will be, and eventually when people get frustrated they do stupid things, and get exposed as the real losers.
its gonna be so hard to understand now - but you know, school is a tiny part of your life, its gonna be over one day, and u'll never have to deal wit hthem again. its funny in a way - the people who think they are the big shots in school, like this is universal - end up being salesman and usually pitied- and the people that put up with the crap, go on to be amazing sucessful people .
2006-07-26 08:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes,even when it's hard.Try not give feedback
the more attn u give the longer the rumors go on.I thinkwhen people start rumorsespecially in school it'sbecause someone is jealous.keep your head up people who love and know u will support u.those who don't are not true friends.
2006-07-26 08:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by nana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. You know, in the end its just gonna come back at them. If the rumor is true then let them spread it, cause I mean if its true then theres no reason to hide it, people will find out. If its not true, just ignore it cause you know its stupid for them to do that, all their tryin to do is make theirselves look better but in the end they look incredibly dumb. You just got to hold your head up high and keep smiling.
2006-07-26 08:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hellooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo dont u see that you need to CHANGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! why dont you get that I mean the reason why this happening is that youare doing something that stats rumors so just focus on school for a wile
2006-07-26 08:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by Maya D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find the person who did it tell the prinipal but make sure you have proof
2006-07-26 08:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by pigletsrus c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are about you, ignore them. If they are about others, forget them.
2006-07-26 08:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by Susan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋