We've been together almost 4 years. One of the first things that attracted me to him was his outgoing personality. We used to go boozing during the week, and stay out late going to clubs and restaurants, now all he wants to do is surf the net (techy sites, not porn) and do the odd bit of DIY. He still goes out with his mates, but never with mine, and he doesn't want to do anything I suggest we do, unless it's dinner in a restaurant he approves of, or perhaps a drink in a swanky bar.
He earns good money and supports me, so, given that our relationship is as exciting as watching paint dry, am I with him just for the money???
What should I do?
2006-07-26 08:35:35 · 12 answers · asked by Curly Locks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds to me like you have become used to the security of him and maybe his money too.
Do you see yourself with this man in, say, 5 years?
If the answer is no, get out now - you will regret throwing your life away if you don't
If the answer is yes, you might want to ask yourself why, then you'll have your own answer.
It's all too easy to stay with someone just because . . . much harder but better in the long run for you both if you take the right steps now, whatever they may be.
Good luck, my heart is with you.
2006-07-26 09:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
lol....You got me for a minute, I was wondering if I asked this. I am the same way. I am 29 and he is 49, when we first started going out he did all those things. Now I can't get him to do a darn thing. And when I suggest dinner at a restraunt he has to approve. we usually sit home and watch mmovies or he's out riding his motorcycle, playing with his telescope or playing some stupid game on the computer. I don't have any bills to pay and we live in a house and I don't have to pay a dime. And If I need anything and can't get it, he will. I mention anything I want and I have it! I thought about the money thing also, And is it better to be taken care of, or would I rather be having fun. To me it's a comfort thing. I am happy where I am at, I love him for what he is not what he has and gives me. I like being taken cared for, but I also like my independence. As long as you are happy withhim, it's not that big of a deal. we've been together 4 years, and I wouldnt take anything back.
2006-07-26 08:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by RIA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you were attracted to his outgoing personality. Now he surfs the net, so that makes you lose your attraction slightly. I don't think you are in it for the money, just the fact that he won't go out anymore.
Ask yourself this to further make sure: Would you be attracted to him still if you guys went out, but didn't spend any money?
I think that is one of the things you should do. Go out and have fun, without spending so much. He needs to know that your ideas matter too, and that you are not happy with his habits. This needs to be a quiet time to talk, where he is focusing on you and not the internet.
Good luck with your decisions, and I hope he at least tries to make an effort in making you happy. If he doesn't, then he doesn't deserve you.
2006-07-26 08:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by ♥<ŦĦØΛ>♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your with him because you got comfortable, but that's not a good reason to stay with someone. Talk to him and let him know how you feel maybe you can spice it up a bit and you can start to have those feelings for him again. Give him a chance he may not know how much he's changed and let him tell you if you've changed as well. Keep an open mind and be willing to compromise if you want the relationship to survive. Good luck!
2006-07-26 08:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not one of the first things that attracted you to him as you said it was his going out personality not his money.Always the first year of a relationship you get the honeymoon period.You have just got yourselves in a rut and routine that's all,try spicing things up.Tell him how you feel and try different things out together.....Good luck.
2006-07-26 08:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by sarah y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy then get out.... nothing to stop you making your own money...he doesn't sound that interested in you anymore....
and stop kidding yourself... all men look at porn on the net... its perfectly natural!
2006-07-26 08:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by dirtyminx82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look inside your heart, you will find what you want to know there.
Good luck with your decision.
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2006-07-26 08:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you defintitely wanna be financially secure in the future no matter what.
2006-07-26 08:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by gundam_bravo4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go its not a loving relationship,you will find someone better than him for you
2006-07-26 08:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by allan g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take all you can get from it girl
2006-07-26 09:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by xxxxxxxxxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋