I am a woman who is has been dating a man for years. But for some reason I do get horny thinking about sleeping with a woman and occasionally consider what it would be like to sleep with a woman. Does that make me gay? I know this sounds like a stupid, teenager type question but I assure you this is no joke and I'm a little worried, please help!!!!
2006-07-26 08:29:59 · 17 answers · asked by S J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't worry about it - it's normal.
My gal thinks about it too.
2006-07-26 08:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SJ, there are very few people who are 100% straight or 100% gay. If I remember correctly, there are six identifiable "degrees," or it may be five, I am not sure, with fully gay on end of the scale and fully straight on the other.
Obviously you have a curiosity about sex with a woman. That does not necessarily make you gay.
I would recommend having such an encounter and then analyzing your feelings. A gay woman told me that she had had 18 male and 20 female lovers before she finally decided that she was definitely gay.
It could be a long journey. I wish you good luck!
2006-07-26 08:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it does not make you gay. every woman has thought about another woman one way or another. from admiring her outfit to her hair or any other reason you can come up with to look at another female. it's only natural plus the fact that experimentation is a good thing. just find a female who looks female. if you wanted a man you could have got a real man, instead of a female looking like a man. females know what each other want .it is perfectly healthy to feel like this.trust me i know. im married (to a man) and still love women. they are sexy and drive me crazy.
2006-07-26 08:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by sara j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon..... you're only curious. It happens as we travel through life.
It couldnt be more normal. It does NOT make you gay but you MIGHT be a little "bi". Most people who are bi are split percentages of some kind:
85% Straight
15% Gay
Or something like that which varies from person to person.
Most men are very aroused at lesbian sex. If you tell your man, he may be excited and want, even, to be present when you try it.
2006-07-26 08:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be worried. Its all part of learning and developing sexually. I'm a guy and I love women and if I was a women I am sure I would love loving women then too. Women are very attractive, softer, don't need to shave their face and are not hairy all over, lol
Don't be afraid, talk to other friends but never do anything that would hurt someone else or yourself. It has to be enjoyed by all.
2006-07-26 08:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Doesn't seem strange to me and, no, it doesn't make you gay. There is too much pressure it seems to me to categorize folks and put them into one of three definite slots. Seems to me there are gradients from one "slot" to another and few people fit one and only one. I suspect, if you got the truth out of them, a good many men COULD get aroused by a man, same for women--all under the right circumstances. Kinda gives "normal" a new meaning.
2006-07-26 08:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not worry, for one there is no such thing as "normal". There are just things that are more often talked about, everyone has desires and I am sure at one point we have all thought that they are somewhat "weird".
It makes sense to me, I have done the same thing, it doesnt mean you are gay... to me women are more tender when I picture them together, maybe thats whats on your mind as well?
2006-07-26 08:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think all women have though about it. Ohhh please you are probably one reading it right now that tells others i have never thought that but you have !! Anyway it does not make you gay..........if that really GTE's you going then try it maybe that is where your suppressed desires really are and then maybe it excites you to the though of it since men say 2 women together is sexy!
2006-07-26 08:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by vcaring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't make you gay... It's normal. Several female friends of mine (none of whom are gay, or even bi) have admitted to having such fantasies. Most of us don't act on it, tho, and don't get obsessed over it. It can be a fun addition to a healthy fantasy world.
2006-07-26 08:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are bi curious if you want to find out for sure invite your bf and another lady for a threesome. Your boyfriend will enjoy himself and you will have had the initial experience to make the decesion if you are gay or not.
2006-07-26 08:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by machinerytech2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same feelings and what i did was try doing thing with another girl and i did like it so now i told my b/f that I'm bi and he is cool with it so now I'm dating a guy and a girl!!!
♥good luck♥
2006-07-26 08:38:06 · answer #11 · answered by lil kisses 15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋