My mom is really strict about what i wear. She insists that i wear girl clothes or people will make fun of me because they think i am gay (i haven't told her i am gay yet). I tell her that i don't care what people will say or think but she still dosen't care. Every time I buy boys clothes I get yelled at and she never lets me go anywhere in public with her unless I wear girl clothes, which i hate. My older brother and sister also agree with her. I want to tell her that I am a lesbian so she will let me be who i am but from recent events, it dosen't look like she will be very accepting. I am about to go to college (same as my older sister) and I really need my mom to pay for it. I am not sure she will if I tell her i am gay. I want to start dating in college but i risk my sister finding out and telling on me also. I have no idea what I should do. I want to date and get my college payed for but I have no idea how to do it. I need advice.
2006-07-26 08:18:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Unfortunately we have all been here. For me I always had my hands in my pockets and my mom would freak....I should have known then...LOL. We all have to make the very difficult decision of coming out, but we also have to realize that we need to be happy and like ourselves. There are other ways to get an education without your mom I am not sure were you are located but I am sure there is support somewhere close by check into it there should be counsellors there to help.
I congratulate you for knowing what you want for your life at your age even with the obstacles. Don't give up, maybe even put feelers out with your sister to talk to....hey Ive been out know almost 20 yrs and my mom comes and visit my partner and I when she can, I never thought that would happen 20yrs ago.
Good Luck!
2006-07-26 08:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by tjdyke2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on Mom's dime now. Do what she says. If you are over 18 and can pay all your bills then move out and do what you want. I wouldn't tell your Mom until you are at least over 18. You never know, you could find your self in some program to try and make you straight. Preferably I'd wait until after college to tell your family. Get on your own first. It is your business.
2006-07-26 09:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is dreadful, you mother's, brother's and sister's love for you should be unconditional, you MUST be who you are, if they don't like it that's their problem, if they can only love the person they think you should be then their love is not worth anything. I wish you all the happiness in The World, please don't forfeit it, not for anyone. You sound like such a nice person, please don't change, but at the same time don't accept their money to go to college, get a job and save some money and go at a later date. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-07-26 11:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should check in to a college where you sister is not going...Sounds to me like your mother already knows...other wise she would not be so worried about what people are thinking...If she can get you to wear girlie clothes...how could you be a lesbian...
2006-07-26 08:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with it for a while. If your parents are willing to pay for college, absolutely do not put that at jeopardy. Think about going to college somewhere else.
2006-07-26 08:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about your family. its terrible to lie but find a friend in college to pretend to be your boyfriend, and then find some lovely discrete women
2006-07-26 08:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by aprilx4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could look into getting government grants
2006-07-26 08:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by BlueBoar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your mom, and noone else.
2006-07-26 08:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋