2006-07-26 08:13:50 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have to respect what your parents wishes to do but first try to tell them what you feel towards this. you have to understand that marriage is not always a bed of roses. There are marriages that work and there are some that don't. Maybe the time has come when you parents have to end theirs.
You can not let your parents keep their marriage just because of you because they will just end up miserable and eventually the whole family will become worse. Their having to separate does not mean that they to separate from you too. maybe they love you that they don't want to be miserable infront of you so they have to separate. Maybe its best that they separate now while there is still friendship to save between then.
cheer up! things will be alright!
if it helps, why don't you post their wedding picture everywhere. make them remember their good times together.
2006-07-26 09:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by arthurmljr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old you are - first you need to accept that the end of their relationship is no reflection on you. Second, don't take sides - never tell one their right and the other is wrong - they have to work things out - you're not their lawyer or their priest - you can and should maintain a nice relationship with both. Third, don't listen to their complaints about the other - sure, let them vent if they need to, but don't let it color the way you look at them (remember, don't take sides). Fourth, don't try and get them back together -- again, not your place. Fifth, what they're going through is difficult, be supportive and helpful (but don't takes sides). Sixth, it's tough on the kids, so if you need help find someone to talk to who other then your parents (in these conversations you can vent and say things like "I can't believe my father id this or my mother said that"). Seventh, recognize that just because they aren't able to keep their marriage together doesn't mean that someday you will have the same problem (it's not hereditary). Last: good luck.
2006-07-26 15:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by Clockwork Grape 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be there for BOTH of them, don't pick sides and don't let them drag you into any fighting, remember that your parents have a relationship with each other that's different than the one they have with you. Sometimes the things that bring two people together get lost or buried as the two people grow in different directions, your best course is to let them work things out(even if that leads to a divorce) Show them that you will Love them no matter what happens and that your going to be there daughter always,, just as there going to be your parents always, even if they get a divorce.
2006-07-26 15:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by amara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom and dad are getting a divorce there is nothing you can do about it. The divorce has nothing to do with you our how they feel about you they just can not live with eachother. The best thing to do is stay out of it . You will only get hurt. I know that is hard to do but you must let them work this out. Rember it is not about you but how they feel about eachother.
2006-07-26 15:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take sides, tell them you think that they are going to get a divorce, and tell them how it makes you feel. Understand that it's not about you, or anything you did, and it doesn't change how they feel about you. Sometimes people just can't stay together, because they are not happy that way. No matter what happens, your parents will still be your parents, and they will continue to care about you.
2006-07-26 15:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear your news. There is not much you can do, because it doesnt involve you. Try to be supportive of both of your parents, because they are each under a lot of stress right now. Try not to get involved in the details, because there are always 2 sides of a story. And remember, if they do divorce, they are divorcing each other, not you.
2006-07-26 15:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them. If they haven't actually discussed this with you then you can bring your concerns to them. Let them know how you feel. As far as "saving the marriage" that's not something you can do. They are NOT divorcing because of you. Just remember to keep an open communication with your parents no matter how their marriage ends up. I'm sure they both love you and will continue to love you!!!!!
2006-07-26 15:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Strong My parents been talking about getting a divorce but never have
2006-07-26 15:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might possibly try to talk to them both together just to get them talking, not shouting. Ask them is there anything that you can do to help. By the way, this isn't your fault at all. They are having problems in their relationship. Make sure that you let them both know that you love them and want to stay together as a family.
2006-07-26 15:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by RAYMOND B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? There's nothing for you to do about it. Just love both your parents and accept anyone else they bring into their lives, for the sake of your parents. It's not about you, and it's not your fault. Failure may not be an option...but Change is, and change can be good.
2006-07-26 15:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋