Pondering hatred (see details please)?

Question

Most of us have heard this phrase: "The opposite of love is not hatred, but apathy. Therefore, hatred is very close to love, since they both involve strong passions."

So, what do you think is the reason you hate someone? What's the one thing you could remove (or add) that would change your feeling from hatred to love?

SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE. Thank you.

Answer 1

Generally, what we hate in others is a refection of what we hate in ourselves. Hatred is a form of power and control through agression. Start developing a positive self-image and positive self-talk and you will find your hatred diminishes. Hatred is like taking poison and expecting the object of your hatred to die.

Answer 2

love and hatred coexist. empathy and apathy coexist.
love is drive to focus on helping that 1 person or if you have more love a few others as well. hatred is when you are either rivals (same goals as the person but different ways of standing out to get there), or enemies (can't stand each other to the point of harm or death on the other). hatred is there when you feel they force you to be alone and like love is only targeted at 1 person or a few more.
empathy is when you have the desire to heal youself thru showing weakness to others by offering help no matter what.
apathy is when you detach yourself from caring about any one's emotion other than your own.

i think to hate some1 is because they to much alike you and doesn't want to help you get there is the reason why you form hate. only thing you can do is be in there life in a helpful way and you will only gain respect but not love unless it's opposite sex.

Answer 3

Wow that's pretty deep!...I would have to say that people hate others for many reasons, but mainly because someone has hurt, abused or mistreated that person or someone close to them, people think they hate a person, but they really just don't like what that person has done or said, so if you remove the hurt, misunderstanding, pain, etc. by forgiving, you can open up for love, which has been there the whole time anyway. Hope you get my meaning.

Answer 4

I'm in this now and I just hate the fact that I can't let go of what I love to hate and hate to love I thinks well I know she feels the same way/ Very cool question

Answer 5

The Buddhist say something like "when love and hate are both absent the mind is clear and calm" If I tell myself I hate someone I do a quick check it usually because I set myself up no matter how innocently...and am angry with myself...Usually I step back... way back and rethink why...sometimes all one can do is remove ones self from the persons energy...and focus on something elce..How did I participate in ths interactioin? forgive and go on...

Answer 6

I think love is associated with hate because to actually HATE someone you have to pretty close to that person. Someone you don't know isn't going to invoke hate, maybe dislike or distain. I think the only thing that would turn hate to love would be understanding. If you understand something you have no reason to fear it or hate it.

Answer 7

Generally if you separate someones behavior from their intention, there would be no reason for hate.
Again excercising Objectivity when reasoning is the only path to TRUTH.
When Truth has been found there will be no reason for Hate.

Answer 8

I hate because they hate me and try to make my life unlivable. If they treated me like a human being and showed a little restraint then I wouldn't hate their guts.

Answer 9

A willingness to accept each other as they are. (I'm thinking of one of my grandmothers, who has been horrid to me since I was a kid.)

In the case of people like Osama Bin Laden, death. His.

Answer 10

physical attraction