i have so much disappointments in life...how could i get over these? it makes me mre insecure... i hate this...i shouldnt be this way... i have God in my life but i couldnt just stop myself...i want to shout i want to cry ....
2006-07-26 07:54:55 · 8 answers · asked by adet 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Good Questions, and you are NOT alone.
A person like you should be proud because you are thinking on another level. Some people are not even thinking of goals or succeeding beyond the 9 to 5.
I remember shouting myself at how pissed off i was that nothing was working.
Let me tell you this.
I eventually got my degree, started a business and also worked for a consulting firm. Made ALOT of money over a couple of years. And i am still relatively young.
Took a gamble and invested in some things, lost it all, got laid off and watched the jobs in my field go to India.
Became homeless, almost....
Now I see it as a game. You have to push reset and learn from each mistake. Most problems it seems come from a lack of education in some area. If your parents didnt teach you certain things you are left with trial and error.
2006-07-26 07:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As everyone else has mentioned...set realistic goals for yourself. By this I mean, start small and work toward the bigger goals. If you have a bigger goal in mind, sit down and draw up a plan for yourself...figuring out what small goals you can accomplish first to make your bigger goal more attainable. And be patient with yourself. Many times we want results right now when the goals we have, even the little ones, may take time to complete. So take a deep breathe...wipe your slate clean...and start with baby steps.
2006-07-26 08:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by AverageMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ---
Maybe you set higher standards for yourself and you want to accomplish great things but sometimes those standards or goals are set too high for you Try something a little easier that is easier to accomplish but still has great meaning or value to you . And dont worry about all the stress god will help you just go with the floww dont try and hurry your life right away
2006-07-26 08:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you....I understand.
I've been there, am still stuck there, and know what it means when even your successes in life are *taken* from you no matter how hard you try. You can email me for more details....I might re-submit some too courtesy of a link to one or two of my own Best Answers....
But the point is this. Yes, I have a mood disorder. Yes I've made mistakes and messed up in my life. I've been fighting that tooth and nail for 15+ years and not getting much in the way of results, but....
At some point you do have to put your foot down, and *decide* to shout instead of cry. At some point you do have to realize, "hey, I busted my hump for this, I worked my tail off and did the best I could, and you know what, *it wasn't all my fault* damn it."
Because the truth is, it isn't your fault or mine, not entirely. Lots of people in this society, at least in the United States here where I am, *live* to tear other people down. They see life as a zero-sum game and they take it personally, meaning if they see someone else succeed, they can't enjoy it and see it for what it is, oh no...
They have to see it as a threat to their own life and success, and retaliate and brown-nose and back-stab until your life is in ruins. I know, I've had this happen to me with regard to my college career getting my bachelor's degree--was the first in my family to do so--with backstabbing and lying advisors who tricked me into staying in a non-productive, non-useful major until it was too late to bail out and switch to something more useful....
And I have had it happen with a drop-in center for local mental health clients that I personally helped get off the ground, spent over a year getting it going and then spent nearly three years co-managing the thing. Did my meds crap out after the three years and sabotage my own mind? Sure. But having an angry CEO and a conniving cow-orker (deliberate typo, it's a joke) repeatedly back-stab me out of my damn dream didn't help....
Point is. You need to take a stand for yourself. You need to put your foot down and actually say "No, damn it, this isn't just *me*, this isn't just *my fault*, YOU people keep screwing me over and then wonder why I'm 'crazy'. YOU people need to stop back-stabbing me and stop trying to ruin me and stop being so utterly cheap, miserly and half-assed when you *do* stoop to 'help' me, ok?? Do you GET IT already??"
In other words, if you have to choose between an anger that hates other people and a sadness that hates yourself, sometimes you *have to* choose the anger if you really want to live and *not die driven into the gutter, swept there like so much roadkill by the predators around you*.
I hate to say it, but it's true. It is high time folks were *all* held accountable for their mistakes and their failings and their connivances, not just those of us with a clear diagnosis, you know?
Will provide sources shortly....
Done.
2006-07-26 08:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by Bradley P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, dreaming big does not make you a failure. keep dreaming big. sometimes things in life just don't work out like how we want them to, but that doesn't mean you're a failure. the idea is to set a high goal, so you can strive to reach it. you say you have God in your life...have you considered asking him what HIS plans for you are, and not your own?
2006-07-26 07:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by nicoletta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are your goals realistic? doesn't having "god" in your life fix everything? maybe your new goal should be to believe in your self, not some fictional character from an old story book.
2006-07-26 07:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you may be trying to do too many things. Why not pick one thing from your list and accomplish that. You may be setting yourself up for failure in your approach.
2006-07-26 07:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have felt that way before. I have clinical depression that I control. Maybe you don't, but it wouldn't hurt you to follow this link.
2006-07-26 07:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋