What do I do now?

Question

So I've been talking to this guy I'm interested in for about 1 month. I'm 20, he's 24. I've been making a mojority of the phone calls and attempting to make plans that he agrees to but calls a few hours ahead to cancel due to bad weather, working late, etc (which is a a workaholic). But just the other day he had brought to my attention that I call "too much" and that it was a turn off. So I had asked him was I taking the situation for more than what it was (him liking me) and he said no. The conversation ended with me saying I don't know what you want to do with the situation so I'm going to leave it in your hands. He then said you know what? I'll call you when I have some free time. So I haven't spoken to him in a week so I had called and left a voicemail to apologize because I did just recently realize I did call a lot. So now I'm wondering do I wait another week and try calling again to try to explain myself or do I just wait and hope he does call? Thanks in advance.

I also forgot to mention that we were introduced by his boss. So I'm imagining that he would be concerned that if he didn't call that his job would be at risk. So in one way or another he had said if I wasn't interested I wouldn't have called. He seems like an honest person but it's been about a week or a week and a half and still no phone call. I wasn't sure if this might change the situation at all but thought I'd add it in case.

P.S.-I'm skeptical about the whole dating thing. Because I broke up with my bf of 2 1/2 yrs about a 1 1/2 yrs ago and haven't dated since. So I need a little refresher on the dating scene lol.

Answer 1

Honey, forget about it. If he can't devote any time to you now, what makes you think that he can do it in the future?

Move on to find someone who will put as much effort into a relationship as you are willing to. Relationships are two way streets, not telephone lines.

Answer 2

Leave him alone- stop calling him! If he wants to call you - he will. Don't stand around the phone waiting though, I don't see him as a good option. He is either a workaholic- or just goes with the plans he likes best at the time - DEFINETLY NOT the kind of guy you want!

Answer 3

well i think hes trying to move on but dont want to hurt u.i guy who makes plans and cancels means something else came up.so u doing anything no im free and boom he calls u and cancels.yes there are some girls who just call and usally thats a good thing but sometimes they just call like thier obsessive. when to the guy its looking at the name on the phone and sigh or just not answer.hes answering so u must b a nice girl.he dont want to hurt u.so u just need to back off.if he wants to call u he will but wait and c if he has an intrest in u.most likely he wont so be prepared for that.so u should just go out and try to have fun.if he calls then kool if not at least ur not moping around ur having fun.ur young girl no need to be in this situation go out there and live it up.good luck

Answer 4

You did the right thing, let the ball rest in his court. He'll call if he is truly interested. To some guys as well as girls too much calling is just that TOO MUCH!

At least he was honest w/ you. Maybe he is the type of guy that is old fashion and he likes to be the chaser not the chasee!

But you'll be ok either way it goes! :>)

Answer 5

He has already told you that you call too much, the last thing that you want to do is to call him again. It sounds to me like he really isn't interested. If he were interested he wouldn't always cancel the plans that you have made. Just wait and see if he calls, if not he just wasn't interested.

Answer 6

you need to be realistic. stop making excuses for the truth. he has probably found someone else and you know it. my husband and i called each other everyday, sometimes 3 or 4 times. i understand that people get busy, but a week without so much as a word? stop obsessing over him go out and get yourself a life. waiting by the phone and calling him will make you seem like a stalker. find someone that will enjoy their time with you as much as you do them.

Answer 7

forget about it and move on. chock it up to bad luck, your like,
on this guys ass hardcore, and hes not recipicating. it is a
turnoff, guys really like a girl with a little mystique, you dont have
to "play games" sorta speak. also, realtionships are all about power; you calling all the time gave him alll the power. and thats
not a good thing, i personally woulda been mortified if someone
told me icall too much. iwas in your place when i was 20.
i used to go crazy when i liked a guy and it is a huge turn off.
there is nothing sexier than a girl who is a little bit vaugue.
you just have to be tactful; you mean well, however, your making yourself a little too available.
chock it up to a loss and move on my dear.

Answer 8

Ya...you may have called too much and appeared to be rather needy or clingy. Sometimes girls do that and it bugs the guy. It doesn;t sound like he's much interested in you anyway and if I were you, I'd stop all communication with him and move on. If he REALLY likes you, he will call you....don't be a stalker.

Answer 9

okay, i am the kind of person that needs space...that's how your sweetie sounds. give him room to breathe and then when he is ready, he'll call you. play hard to get for a while even. when he calls, wait a couple days to call him back. you might look a little desperate to him, just cool it down a wee bit. good luck and i hope this helps.
remember...there are plenty of other pebbles on the beach.

Answer 10

get a life! go do what you want to do enjoy yourself and wait for a guy that has enough intrest in you to chase after you! I don't understand you girls who feel the need to chase guys and think you can make them like you. you can't force it! get some self esteem!