I have a friend that buys me lots of stuff, and gives gifts a lot. Surprises. She likes to buy me lunch all the time to. If I try to pay for something she takes it as an insult. She will not let me pay for anything at all when we are together. She is really super nice, and we talk about lots of personal things together. I almost feel like she has feelings for me witch is fine, but I don't want to make the assumption. She may just be Super Duper nice. What do you guys think of this? How can I repay her for all her kindness?
2006-07-26 07:39:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For some of you that keep calling me a dude I'm not. See my Avatar it's a girl. And my friend is a girl too.
2006-07-26 07:56:11 · update #1
Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!
2006-07-26 20:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well she could just be as you said, super duper nice or she could be attracted to you. if you don't go that way, then i think you should keep an invisible barrier between the two of you because if you are too nice and kind and too much in tuned with her, she may make a move on you. if she does, then make it clear that you're not gay rather than giving her a false impression. just wait it out and see if anything happens. it could just be a really nice person as well and you don't want to mess up that friendship
2006-07-26 07:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by islandgrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you guys ever talk about guys? maybe you should start on that one day...talk about some guy you like.
she will probably either talk about a guy too which shows shes interested in someone else, or if she stays quiet then maybe thats a clue she likes you...or maybe she'll find it the perfect opportunity to tell you that she likes you.
other than that...maybe she's never really had very good friends and feels like she has to "buy" them now...sometimes if shes generous with money and gives you gifts, she'll feel like you will want to hang around with her more and will be less apt to ditch her in the end.
and, if her buying you stuff really is bothering you, whether you think its cause she is romantically interested in you or just because you are uncomfortable and feel like you owe her too much, explain that to her! just tell her "i really wish i could pay once in a while, i don't want to be in debt to you"
im sure if you have personal convos you could definitly say something like that.
2006-07-26 07:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she is grouping you i dont think she "likes" you. maybe she just wants a really good ture friend and she doesnt know how to make one. just tell her how she feels but be nice about it. tell that u really appreciate what she does for you but you should use your money for something that you want to do. it feels wrong for me to let you buy something for me and you dont let pay you back. if i need to the money i will ask you for it and then pay u back.
just tell her that you like her as a friend and for a friend not for her money.
Good Luck!
2006-07-26 07:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is in a position in her life where money doesn't hold the same value as it does to you, then she is just being nice. (if she is rich and you're not).
If not, something is funny about that. I'd be leary... Been in a situation like this before and it never works out well.
2006-07-26 07:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of sounds like you're friend might have a small crush on you. There is nothing wrong with that. Have you ever asked her why she is so nice? Her answer (whatever it may be) could be quite revealing....
2006-07-26 07:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you. If she doesn't want you to pay the things she buys her for you, don't make it look like you are taking advantage of her, appreciate it with all your heart! You are one lucky dude! lol
2006-07-26 07:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like 2 really close friends, lol. See if she does the same for any guys, or anyone else for that matter. If not, she probably likes you.
2006-07-26 07:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to ask this person why they are being so noticably generous and do they have a motive; if it is becoming uncomfortabe for you.
2006-07-26 07:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by Forgiven by Him 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart
2006-07-26 07:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋