2006-07-26 07:27:26 · 6 answers · asked by MARINA W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Start taking their stuff away, and their priveleges. Make them earn it. And when you dole out their allowance, reming them that you will be charging them for things from now on. Teach them to earn things and budget their money and time. Find out what their "currency" is (cell phone, car, Friday nights, etc and things of value.
Be consistent, and make sure your spouse is on board with the program. If the kids can get different answers fron each of you, they will drive a wedge between you two. Stay as a united front.
They will learn that they need to be taught to be grateful, respectful, and appreciative, Kids are not born with those fine qualities, so it's not all their fault.
Teach them what to expect as consequences and priveleges from various choices. Teach them (NOW) that they are not entitled to anything and everything they want.
Show them examples of different salary rates, educational requirements for those rates, rent/mortgage costs, utilities, groceries, gas, etc. How much would you be willing to pay them to clean up if you charged them for dinner and/or rent ?
Kids finish high school and sometimes move out or go to college. then (commonly) they get into trouble with credit debt, drop out of college, or come back home, expecting to be bailed out of a jam.
It is YOUR job as a parent to teach them about responsibility whether they like it or not, and prepare them to fly on their own. It you give in too much (maybe to be liked/popular with them) you are hurting them. You don't want to give your kids "entitlement syndrome" and how to be narcissistic.....
If they won't clean their rooms, pach their stuff up and make them go with you to donate it to Hurricane Katrina relief. If they ignore their curfew, take away their Saturdays to donate their time at a soup kitchen or volunteering to work with big brothers and sisters programs.
Force them to see beyond their own needs NOW while you can still influence who they become!
Good luck!
2006-07-26 07:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Beat them! NO, NO, JUST KIDDING!!! I find that if I make them feel the job is important to them, they will help out. Some tricks are to never tell them to do it, ask them and let them know how much you would appreciate it. Rewarding them works too. The worst thing to do is punish them for not helping, it just turns them all rebellious. Start them out with a small task, like picking up their own laundry etc... I used to just let my daughter accumulate all her dirty clothes in her room, and when she complained she didn't have anything clean to wear, suggested for her to do the laundry. It didn't take long for her to start putting the laundry in the hamper like everyone else.
2006-07-26 07:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by paesano2578 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting them go out, take away the cell phone ipod ,etc.
Tell them priviledges have to be earned.
Or you could try what my mother did; hide all of their stuff and make them think you donated it. I wouldn't clean and that's what she did to get me to help and started to get them back by earning it through housework.
My kids know if I am coming with the trash bag they better move it; if I start cleaning; stuff is getting thrown out.
2006-07-26 07:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by JenKat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are lazy little spoiled brats that are given too much too young and think the world owes them a living.
About 40 million moms out there are asking the same question.
2006-07-26 07:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by NYman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that if they want to go out with their friends, or go to the upcoming party...or whatever they are looking foward to, they have to do certain chores. it may be harsh but it should work. they might yell and get angry but then again, maybe they wont.
2006-07-26 07:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck
2006-07-26 07:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by aly j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋