need some advice. what would you do and how would you feel?

Question

i had a friend i knew since i was in the fourth grade. we were close. where one was, the other was there. i loved her very much. five years ago, i noticed that weeks would pass by before i would hear from her. if i called her, i would get her answering machine. a few weeks turned to two months. i was worried. so called her parents thinking they may know what's wrong with her. she called me (on her time) and told me she's depressed and even thought about suicide. i told her to call me day or night. i'm always there. well, she disapeared again for another 4 months. went to her house and she looked awful. she had gotten worse. i gave her space and hadn' t heard from her for months. when i i was to get married, i couldn't get a hold of her. i tried so hard. after i got married i called her. (i was fed up at this point). she cried and said we're in different places in life and we needed to go our seperate ways. i haven't heard from her since. what should i do? leave it alone?

she changed her number. i don't know the new one

Answer 1

Depression can be very serious. That's a tough question. Sounds like she should see her doctor and maybe be given a prescription and maybe a support group but it's so hard to help a friend when they don't want the help. Denial is a big part of depression. Visit www.nami.org and check it out. Education is crucial for family members, friends and the ill ones. By educating yourself you can help your friend because you'll understand your friend. Check to see if there is a NAMI group near you. They could give you informational pamphlets and there are classes that can be very benificial! Good luck, I wish you and your friend luck and hope everything works out for you!

Answer 2

NO YOU SHOULD LOOK FOR HER TALK TO HER SHE PROBABLY FEELS YOU WONT HAVE TIME FOR HER IN YOUR NEW MARRIED LIFE YOU PROBABLY WONT HAVE AS MUCH TIME AS YOU DID IN THE 4TH GRADE BUT YOU'LL STILL HAVE TIME EXPLAIN TO HER THAT JUST CUZ YOUR MARRIED DOESNT MEAN YOUR GOING TO FORGET ABOUT YOUR LIFE LONG FRIENDS MAKE SURE YOU TELL HER HOW MUCH YOU CARE FOR HER AND MAYBE GET HER TO SEE A DOCTOR SHE COULD BE FALLING INTO DEPRESSION AND WHEN PEOPLE ARE IN DEPRESSION THEY TEND TO DO STUPID THINGS. GOOD LUCK!!!