I've known this girl for 7 years.She's been my nieghbour for that amount of time. I've helped her out in many situations. Took care of her 3 kids when she needed to go somewhere..took them and picked them up from school when she's been too idle to walk with them..taken her shopping because she doesn't drive..was there for her when her dad recently passed away..was always there when she needed a shoulder to cry on because her now ex was verbally and mentally and sometimes phisically abusive towards her...the list goes on. We've fallen out in the past several times and it's always her that starts the arguements but always her that comes crawling back for forgiveness and so i 4give and forget. This time, altho the arguement is over but we're still not speaking, i've found out that she's been slagging.. not only me off behind my back but my 8yr old son too..and we were supposed to be friends at the time she was saying all this stuff. I don't think i can 4give her this time. What wud u do?
2006-07-26 07:20:20 · 17 answers · asked by Mini-Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ive beem more or less in the same situation. and was the same as you always etc, there no matter what. when things got bad i spent lot of time away from her. and after started our friendship over. but if it got as bad as slagging me and my family off. then no i would not forgive. thats not what friends do. may be she jealous of your life and is trying to cause some trouble for you to make her feel better. (some people are twisted like that) i would just leave her be. and not have anythin to do with her and get on with my own life.. she'll realise what a mistake shes made cus it sound like you've been a really good friend to her. you dont deserve how shes treating you.
2006-07-26 07:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by jaynieleigh22 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes there comes a time when you have to walk away.
Whilst you have been an angel in showing this woman your forgiveness in the past and have always helped her she has treated you as a doormat.
To involve your child in an arguement is too low a blow - why would you want to associate with a person like that.
Obviously she is your neighbour so you have to be careful ie not matter how tempting do not retaliate! take the high ground and walk away smiling letting her show herself up.
She has taken too much and given too little.
You have done all you can personally (and I was in a similar situation recently) FORGET her.
Good luck and well done for being so forgiving and helpful in the past x x x x
2006-07-26 07:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry that your son had to be brought into this. There is no need for a big blow up. If you see her, be cordial, but not overly friendly. When she asks for a favor, be nice but let her know that you are not available. If you happen to see her and anyone that told you she's been talking about you behind your back, take the time to "correct" what she's been saying about you in front of the friend. It sounds like you are not gettting anything out of the friendship and will be better off without her. Good luck on gently extricating yourself from the relationship.
2006-07-26 07:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend? You say? She is using you for all that she can get. You seem kind natured and she has taken advantage of that. If i were you(which i'm not) I would have a serious think about all the things she has ever done for you- If the answer is only maybe one or two, I would let it go.
She seems to be an attention seeker and will want all the help on offer. If she has been saying nasty things about you and your family I would finish the friendship for good- she doesn't respect you for starters. What friend backstabs you?
I hope you can find it within you to do the right thing
Good luck
2006-07-26 07:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes there comes a time once you need to stroll away. while you have been an angel in showing this lady your forgiveness in the previous and have constantly helped her she has taken care of you as a doormat. To contain your baby in an arguement is in basic terms too low a blow - why could you desire to go at the same time with a individual like that. of course she is your neighbour so which you need to be careful ie no longer count how tempting do no longer retaliate! take the extreme floor and walk away smiling letting her teach herself up. She has taken too plenty and given too little. you have finished all you are able to in my view (and that i exchange into in an identical undertaking those days) forget approximately her. sturdy success and nicely finished for being so forgiving and helpful in the previous x x x x
2016-10-08 08:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot live happily without being a doormat to this woman then forgive &forget.
If you feel you deserve some respect and friendship back not just being used then forget all about her, in slagging you off she is the one that looks bad after all the neighbours will have seen you doing stuff for her & will think she is ungrateful & not a very nice person.
Put your son first he doesn't need a bad influence like her in his life
2006-07-26 07:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does kinda sound like a one sided friendship, as you dont mention any time she has helped you out? If thats the case you are probably better off without her.
2006-07-26 07:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by babaloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her, you've done all you can, on many occasions by the sounds of it. True friends have disagreements, yes, and patch up, but she sounds all take, and enough is enough......she can slag you off all she likes, but your son, that is unforgivable.....big time.....i wolud NEVER have anyone cuss my son
2006-07-26 07:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by paula m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a taker.
Forget her.
You are better off without her.
Find better friends.
2006-07-26 07:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sally J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes and you are very friends. I think you must forgive because she need now.
2006-07-26 07:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by la peke de Y!R ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋