Ex and I broke up and he moved back home (another state), it was a mutual agreement to end relationship. Problem is I might be pregnant. I'm to take a test tonight when I get home from work. If I am pregnant I want to keep the child, I'm 27 with a 6 year old and I do not want to abort. Problem is if I am I don't want him to feel I'm just saying this because I want him back, because this is not the case. We both are financially stable and are each loving parents (he has a 13yr and 9yr). What is the best way to go about explaining to him I want to keep the child(if this is the case). While together we agreed that if I ever got pregnant we would have the child, but of course the circumstances changed. We also agreed to be friends, but I will admit we haven't been broken up long enough to see how this will actually play out......
2006-07-26 07:12:29 · 9 answers · asked by Kenya 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First things first, girl!! Let's take the test first to see where to go next,k? Then, as it sounds, you 2 do really care for eachother, i would tell him honestly how you feel. If you are pregnant, this is a gift and should be treated as one. I would just let him know that you are to keep the child and see how he responds. Ask God to give you courage and to guide you and all will be well. Have faith. If you are preggers, congratulations and i wish you all the best. How lovely for your other child as well. Best of luck!!God bless you and your family!
2006-07-26 07:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by Michele S 2 · 11⤊ 1⤋
Once you find out that you are for sure pregnant just give him a call and give him the news. Explain to him that you are going to keep this little bundle of joy and you are not expecting the two of you to get back together. Im sure he is going to want to be involved with the childs life and give all the support he can. You two can just remain friends.
Good luck to you however it turns out.
2006-07-26 14:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of birth control or marriage?
Tell your ex the truth once you know it. If your pregnant your pregnant and its his choice to believe what he wants about the truth. You owe him no explanation as to you keeping the baby especially if you have talked about it previously. You are the one that will have to raise the child for 18 yrs.Never get back together just for a child, it never works. As far as friendship goes that has nothing to do with you having a baby, it has to do with level of maturity for you and your ex.
2006-07-26 14:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by SUZANNE O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could just not tell him, but that's not right. my husband's uncle had an affair during his first marriage with a woman who ended up getting pregnant. well, she never told him and they didn't see each other again. eighteen years later he was told about her. my husband was floored when he found out. turns out a girl he graduated with and sort of knew ended up being his cousin. they could have dated! the woman didn't tell his uncle because she didn't want his money or to marry him or anything. she just wanted the baby I guess.
if you are pregnant, you could always wait until after the doctor confirmed it instead of telling him right away if you have a positive hpt. just come out and tell him you don't want him back, but if he wants to be involved somehow and know his child, great and if he doesn't that's ok too because you can handle it.
2006-07-26 14:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jbeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like if the both of you are mature enough to make a mutual decision to part,then you both would be mature enough to deal with a Child even though you may not be together.Tell him up front your goal for telling him is not to get back with him, but to let him know you are giong to be having his child.I think that if u tell him up front you don't want to be back with him he will more susceptible to acting favorably to the situation and remind him that you had both agreed to be friends..so now how much more so should you both hold up your end of the bargain to be friends.It sounds like you both are able to act civilized for the baby's sake.it can work out!
2006-07-26 14:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by JW27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him anything unless you are in fact pregnant. If you are then you can face it with him, call him tell him and if that brings you back together then fine and if you decide you two can stay friends and do it together but not together than do that. If you are not then nothing to talk about...good luck
2006-07-26 14:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure you are 100% sure before you even tell him anything and then I would say hey I really need to talk to you. and take it from there. Good luck to you.
2006-07-26 14:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by embsmg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should meet him and let know if you are. If you are do you plan to get back with him>
2006-07-26 14:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by ki ki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
/why don't you just wait until you know for sure, and work on it from there...
2006-07-26 14:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋