Your husband borrow money from all your close friends & you knew only after that......
2006-07-26 06:59:24 · 8 answers · asked by Mapleleaf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's hard to answer as I'm a guy. BUT, the first thing I'd do is ask myself when I was connected with such a loser. Depending on that answer, I'd get into counseling to help me figure out what to do.
2006-07-26 07:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your friends loaned your husband money then it is up to them to make him answerable for it. You have nothing to do with that.He made the conscious decision to go to them and THEY chose to do it. NOT YOU! Stand up to all of them and make it clear that you are NOT getting in the middle of it and that they were all adults who made their own choices, which had NOTHING to do with you and that you were NOT part of and had NO knowledge of and therefore can NOT be held accountable for. Make it clear that you will NOT take sides either way and that they have to work it out themselves and that you insist on being left out of that part of it. If your friends hold the situation against you then I would strongly suggest that they are not really your friends after all. You are NOT to blame nor are you responsible for something you did not do and did not even know about. Do NOT let them put you in that position. Stand your ground. They will do what ever they do and again, that is not your responsibility! Good luck honey! I hope it all works out for the best for you! I would also stress to your husband that if he can not take responsibility for his own actions without putting you in this position then he should refrane from doing it! If your friends leave you because of him then they are NOT truely friends in the first place!
2006-07-26 14:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure he repaid my friends then if they still choose not to be my friend and i loved my husband i would simply find new friends or ask them not to loan him money again if this was the cause of the situation... Good Luck
2006-07-26 14:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to give support to your husband, no matter what. Talk to your husband about it. My friends left me too because of my husband, but they came around and we are back of being friends.
2006-07-26 14:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by shysheila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you don't have a very good marriage if you're keeping secrets from your spouse. Husbands and wives should know exactly where they're money is coming from, and going.... husbands and wives should TALK to each other.
2006-07-26 14:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by mr and mrs gee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When this happenened because of my wife, I started looking at her and wondering how I got with this crazy person in the first place. Divorce soon followed.
2006-07-26 14:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he kept that type of secret from you then he's keeping plenty more. Find out who his girlfriend is. You know he has one.
2006-07-26 14:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sadie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
support your husband.
2006-07-26 14:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋