Ok heres the story. She already has three kids who stay with thier dad in another state. She has nothing to do with them except a phone call from time to time. Now she is pregnant again! I know its wrong to tell her what I really think but how in the hell am I supposed to fake being happy for her? On top of that she has only been seeing this guy for about 2 months.
2006-07-26 06:55:41 · 16 answers · asked by J. P 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Who says you have to be nice??? Isn't it a friend's right and/or prerogative to tell the other person when they think they're screwing up??? And if it ends up breaking the relationship, well... so much the better (in this case!).
This woman doesn't sound like she's fit to care for a dog, let alone a KID!
2006-07-26 07:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend did something similar. She was dating this guy while we were in high school. She loved his dirty boxxers. Well he was cheating on her while we were in school. After we graduated she married him. He was still cheating on her. Keep in mind the fact that she knew. Anyway, she got pregnant and they both decided the timing was wrong so she got an abortion. She got pregnant again, but didn't tell him. She got another abortion. She got pregnant again and called me playing the "guess who" game. When she finally told me that she was pregnant for the third time, I couldn't hold back. I just flat out told her that God was going to punish her for killing those babies. She did not like that and stopped speaking to me for a long time. I guess what I'm trying to say is I was not afraid of losing my bestfriend because I was totally against what she had done. If I were you I would let her know and if she doesn't like it, well then f*** her. She is a lousy parent and a very irresponsible adult. Standing up for those kids is more important than hurting her feelings or losing her friendship.
2006-07-26 07:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels like she ought to have somewhat jealousy difficulty.. esp. if she is married without toddlers? Or if shes no longer married and is unmarried it ought to correctly be that she needs a husband and family individuals genuine undesirable yet hasn't ever fessed that to you.. i ought to attempt to contain her as a lot as you could per chance she'll loosen up and be excited for/with you.. on account that she is your proper pal she may experience like she is going to be omitted and what no longer.. If she doesnt change then there is not any longer something you could truly do.. Unfortunatley, some each and every man or woman is clone of that and dont favor to make certain others chuffed! Congratulations and that i'm so sorry about your previous 2 miscarriages. I easily have also had 2 myself they're very hard to flow by. Praying third cases a charm for you!:) best of success!
2016-10-15 05:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this girl is obviously an adult. She has a mother, she doesn't need you to act like one. It's none of your business how she lives her life, and saying something to her about her lifestyle is only going to piss her off.
That being said, a baby is a miracle no matter what the circumstances are. Be happy for the baby rather than her if it helps you. But she's going to be very emotional and if you value this woman's friendship, act like a friend. Support her.
2006-07-27 06:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by braks_gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me tell you. don't act or don't pretend to be happy. If she's your friend she will listen. Just tell her how you feel. Don't be fake. Just sit her down and tell the truth. Being part of a friendship has to do with Honestly,Caring, respect, trust and much more. Be honest with her. Respect her decision.Care for her in her time of need. But most of all be HONEST tell her whats on your mind.
2006-07-26 07:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by <3RomanticChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't necessarily have to act happy for her. As a friend I know you want to refrain from hurting her, but at the same time, don't give her a false emotion. Just ask simple, matter of fact questions. How are you feeling? How far along are you? Have you thought about names?
2006-07-26 06:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this child is going to need all the love it can get from people around his/her mother. The bottom line is the baby is on the way so what good would it do to be judgmental other than to push your friend away? If you feel you want to be involved in this child's life I would be very careful how you treat your friend right now. Good Luck
2006-07-26 07:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by G-Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing you should not act like your happy for a friend not to be mean but if you were her friend you would automatically be happy for her no matter what depending on how good of a friend she is..
2006-07-26 06:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by aeichel18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes or don't talk to her as much as you do you could however send her an anymous letter telling her what you feel but type it so she doesn't know it was you and for the return address use a public libray or something .
2006-07-26 06:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I mean whats done is done. You can't really do or say anything about it cause it's not going to change anything. Just act happy.
2006-07-26 06:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋