I mean seriously they dont know what it is like to be bisexual so why do they even care? they like make fun of you for shtuff you cant control and it pisses me off!... why do you think that their understanding is soooooo impossible?
I have some friends who I thought were really close and they stabbed me in the back a couple days ago just because I told them that I might be bi. MIGHT be... and they are like sooooo mean to me it isnt even funny!... how can people make such stupid judgments based on what you feel personally???
2006-07-26 06:47:38 · 14 answers · asked by crackery 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am in highschool
2006-07-26 07:16:34 · update #1
"Too gay for the straight people and too straight for the lesbian/gay people" and sterotypes along with myths.
Just be honest to yourself and those around you.
You really don't want the kind of people that jugde you cause you're bisexual as friends or in a relationship anyway. Print out a copy of bisexual myths from the Human Rights Campaign and tell them to read it. If they still give you grief then get away from them, they weren't really your friends after all.
2006-07-26 15:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being bi isn't bad for your social life. Sounds to me that your "friends" weren't really your friends in the first place if they did that to you. As you get older, you're gonna find people who are ignorant and mean. But on the other hand, you'll find folks that will accept you and be true to you. But take this time out to work on you and being the best person that you can be. Being bisexual isn't a curse; being untrue to who you really are is. Try some organization that helps LGBT teens to get a grip on things and finally enjoy loving the skin that you're in. Be well, my dear!
2006-07-26 15:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think theres ne thang wrong with being bi....but i do find it disturbing to b with a bi person b/c some r just 2 confused 4 me...not saying that u r...i believe that sum ppl r truly bisexual and can fall in love with ne person but sum ppl like 2 b able to cross back over 2 the other team if the pressure becomes 2 much...
2006-07-26 14:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Dasha G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear mootarmoot,
people don't like those who feel too comfortable on the fence --they want them to fall on one side or the other. there are those in polar camps of " you can't control" and "you can control" that want to see you make a distinction, too. "Control" puts you squarely in the right-wing; "no control" puts you in the left. by stating that you are bi, you are saying that you have some control, even if it is to "love the one you're with". this has become such a hugely divisive issue on all parts of life & culture in our "free" society. people concerned with these issues probably think you are betraying both.
I understand you don't want anyone making decisions for you like nor judging you for the ones you have made. in stating you are bi, you declare you have conflicting perspectives on your sexuality. you are going deeper than where most people want to think. your friends may not need nor want to examine the issue at all. thinking of you examining something they are afraid to even think about makes you scary. scared people can be mean
to put this in perspective: try saying you are a Christian -- it puts a damper on most conversations --most people don't want to hear that either or consider the consequences. I bet you may have some tension just reading what I have to say now. however, both apathy and not wanting to hurt your feelings can play through to you feeling snubbed.
one more thing - lovers want to feel special. if you are having indiscriminate sex, you are making no one feel special, just used, or put in categories of "attractive/not attractive".
Best advice: consider who you are, who God made you to be, why He thought some things seemed obvious for all the headache they bring, why He lets us choose our paths even if they prove erroneous. couldn't hurt to ask Him for help, could it?
2006-07-26 14:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by bygreyce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it hun, they are just scared cause they do not understand. Not all of us our born with the chemicals that make us this way. Also, they are prolly just jealous cause you have twice as many options for a date on Friday nights as they do. Always look on the bright side and sorry to say that if they snubb you now for somethin like this, they they were not true friends to begin with. Take care and be proud of who you are...
2006-07-26 13:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Bongo H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda agree with u. its like one second, everyone's a friend. but when i drop the bomb, they talk differently and a bit weird. the good thing is, they're starting to get used to the fact that i'm bi. but then, humans r still humans. not all of them are open-minded like my frens. being bi isnt a bad thing. i think its a good thing actually. more choices. lol. but its hard. cuz not everyone gets it. but hey, choices come with consequences. gotta go thru it one way or another. just.. be strong aite? take care
2006-07-26 14:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by FO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are like that. I think gays are jealous because they think that bisexuals can pass as normal and heterosexuals are freaked out about the possibility that you might seduce them.
We are one of the most discriminated group of people out there.
We can somewhat understand the straight life and somewhat understand the gay life but really, only another bisexual can possibly understand us.
2006-07-26 13:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they react like that..you really should re-think about your current choice of friends. It's not a bad thing...people just fear what they do not understand. Its the condition thts caused so many misunderstands. You're not alone out there...so don't waste time with ppl like them. Find people who will appreciate you for who you are.
2006-07-26 14:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by twisted_goddess_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what to each his own if thats the life you want then if they were your true friend they would accept you for who you are not your lifestyle choice! Life is way to short to be worried about it go make your self some new friends who care about you and not your way of life! You have to live your life for you! Do what makes you happy and screw the reat ! Have fun.
2006-07-26 13:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by life as we know it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being Bi has done nothing but improve my social life. I have more friends, more lovers and more sex then I did before I decided to become bi.
I always have something or someone to do and keep very busy.
2006-07-26 14:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋