Well we already have 2 girls, a 3 year old and a 19 month old. Is it too soon for another one? My husband really wants this, and i do to but i am the one who stays at home with them. my 3 year is going to Head Start(it is a school for 3 and 4 year olds) but my youngest will be home still until she starts school at 5. I know i can do this but my husband and i just came to a understanding about things and after being married for 3 years and fighting alot, we are now happy again. Is the right time to have another one, or should we wait to see how long this none fighting stops. I love my husband with all my heart but he has some big issues to figure out.
2006-07-26 06:46:08 · 7 answers · asked by mommyof2daughtersandlovinit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have 3 children and pregnant with my fourth. Crazy I know, long story but I guess I am a freak of nature. My middle two are 19 months apart and it was very challenging. 2 in diapers was a big mistake. For your sanity I would wait till you start potty training your youngest. By the time you have the baby she will be completely potty trained and almost ready to start pre-school herself. Just think of all the fun the 2 of you are going to have trying.
2006-07-26 07:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by Building Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know what you already know what would be the best thing for your body, emotional stability and your communication and growth as a couple.
Think over why what you are going to say to him, Talk with him, hug him, let him know you agree with having another child. And then let him know why you want to wait just up to another year or so. In the meantime, you can always say, plan a mini-vacation for just the two you as a "babymoon" before you have that 3rd one, something cheap, nearby yet gives you more time together. And then after you have done something as "just-the-two-of-you" together, you may change your mind.
It's not the end of the world to wait and yet, listen carefully to his reasons for why he wants one now. He MAY have a REASON that HE thinks YOU Don't Understand. Maybe he feels like you are both getting older and the risks are less for now, and he wants to try for a son while he is young enough to have the energy for small kids or something, still,he needs to know you'll feel more emotionally healthy and secure if you get a few more months of just taking date-nights and couple time.
2006-07-26 07:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait. It doesn't sound like your marriage is completely stable and bringing another child into it is just going to make your life busier and more stressful. Give it some time and see how the fighting goes and the big issues he has to figure out. He may see another child as solving all of this, but it's never the answer.
2006-07-26 07:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he want another kid?
Does he help you with household work while raising the kids?
Bring into light troubles that might be caused with having a third child at this time. Also let him know you are really tired of taking care of two kids...and third one would be a pain.
I would suggest two kids are more than enough for a happy couple...3 would be too much time away from each other and it will be like a mini day-care center...
We decided not to have third kid...mainly because wewanted to give them the best education, guidance and attention. Its a tough world out there...when kids are older you'll realise what it takes to bring them up well.. not just time and lots of money..but undivided attention and WISDOM...its a lot to handle lady
2006-07-26 06:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Larissa_J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you make certain once you want to get pregnant. purely tell him "no" and pass on birth control. medical doctors says that a twelve months hollow between 2 pregnancies is the minimum to provide time to the body to get well. you're purely on your early 30s. Menaupose isn't beforehand 50. you've 2 a lengthy time period beforehand it may take position and heavily, there is not any situation waiting 6 months or perhaps extra. He does no longer might want to opt for that for you. it is your body so that you make certain even as that is sweet for you do not have a communicate yet tell him that you do not favor to have yet another toddler now and that you're on the pill that he likes it or no longer. for sure he won't be able to see that you aren't to any extent further waiting. he's a guy and has NO theory what a being pregnant does the the body.
2016-10-15 05:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your question contains an answer. You have some "big issues" to figure out... Isn't this enough of a reason to hold off on another one?
2006-07-26 06:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i would wait. let your old man work out some of his issues. a new baby would only bring more stress.
2006-07-26 06:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by flip4urkandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋