Im 22. I've been dating this kid for 7 years on and off. I dont take it too seriously, but he does. Anyways- when we were "off" i slept with one of his good friends for about 5 months. And my boyfriend still hasen't foind out about it. But tonight, he is hanging out with the guy i slept with..They havent seen eachother for alomost a year, and my boyfriend has suspisions, but i keep denying it. Do you think I should call the guy "his friend" i slept with to tell him not too say anything to him before they go out drinking tonight??? Or do you think i should just show up at the house where the are going to be, so nothing happens? Please help. Asap
2006-07-26 06:33:50 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should cut your current boyfriend loose. He is serious about you and you lie to him. Hmmmmmm. Ah'm thinkin' that this is not a good thing for him to be in.
2006-07-26 06:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the first big mistake was sleeping with his friend in the first place. Secondly keeping this a secret from him is only going to make matters worst, when it all comes out. I think you need to let him know what happened and from there see how things turn out. Especially if they are going out drinking because the truth seems to come out after a couple of drinks. He should have a choice in the matter and you owe it to yourself to get that off your chest. Remember whatever happens in the dark always comes to light.
2006-07-26 06:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Domo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may as well accept the fact that it's going to come out sooner or later. I lived with someone for nine years. I always had my suspicions but never really came out and asked her. Once we broke up.... You wouldn't believe what I heard. You're young. You really don't sound like you wish to spend the rest of your life with this young man. It's always been my experience you break out the booze, someone gonna snooze. Alcohol always seems to cause aggression. He'll never let you live it down and be throwing it in your face for the duration. Your best bet as my experience in life can tell you, make a clean break and find someone new and start over. It's not like you are 62. You are blessed with many years to be happy. Find the best situation you can to be happy and healthy the rest of your life. Good luck
2006-07-26 06:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Peggy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are going to be drinking ...Hun it's coming out. Trust me. Two guys drinking usally ends up talking about sex. So get ready it's coming. And if your there it might make it worse. His thinking maybe well heck if she's already slept with him once... why not sleep with both of us. and if you resist . Well you might be made too. So I would go else where and let happen whats going to happen or go tell him before they go out drinking . Specialy if your serious about this guy. Good Luck
2006-07-26 07:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Fox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so worried about it? You're not serious about your boyfriend anyway. IMO, it's not very fair to him for you to lead him on to begin with. What's done is done, and if the guy you slept with does not have enough discretion to not mention this fact in public, you telling him not to do so won't stop him. You should be honest with your boyfriend... Better late than never.
2006-07-26 06:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what you are saying is that you are a liar and now you want someone else to be a liar to protect your lying butt.
You said you don't take it too seriously so why are you lying to him?
You should just come clean and stop trying to corrupt other people by getting them to lie for you. One way or the other, the truth always comes out, better it be sooner than later and better it be from you than from someone else.
2006-07-26 06:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...would not remember how mature you imagine you're at 13 you're nowhere close to the emotional, actual, and non secular adulthood of a 19-22 twelve months previous woman. maximum 19-22 twelve months previous men are nowhere close to the adulthood to compare the females of a similar age. yet pass ahead and attempt...do exactly not get discouraged even as they say "no"
2016-10-15 05:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's pretty bitchy. Anyways, stop being a coward and just tell him yourself, when the friend's not around. That will make sure there is no hospital bills. However, the boyfriend in question really should be mad at you, not the friend.
2006-07-26 06:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by rogue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here we are on the following week and if you haven't told your boyfriend about what happened -do it now !! I know it is easy to say but if the two of you are not serious why have you been together 7 years!!!!!
2006-07-26 06:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont show up were they are going to be hanging out at. big no no
and if you guys were not together at the time why should it matter.
the past is the past. why ruin whats going on now. unless you are still messing around with both of them, them you really need to do something. usually good friends dont let a female get in their way.
2006-07-26 06:37:55 · answer #10 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to start telling the truth! If for any reason he finds out then you need to talk to him and be straight forward with him. If the tables were turned you would want to know as well...As you say your 22 now, grow up!
2006-07-26 06:39:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋