I am naturally lazy and wishy-washy. Can this be changed?

Question

How??? I wish to be mature, ambitious, passionate and accomplished. Seriously.

Answer 1

Maybe you should just go with who you are. Use it to your own advantage.

Answer 2

Those are probably biological traits that have been with you for a long time and aren't changing soon. However, you can easily make those traits into a good side.

If you perceive yourself as lazy, you might also be laid-back and a type B personality. That means your heart is naturally healthier than someone who is incredibly ambitious and you'll probably be more mentally healthy as well.

If you perceive yourself as wishy-washy, you might also be thinking very often. Many people just love to push blind dedication as a good virtue, but it's really not.

In short, I'm sure some people would have wished that Hitler was a little less ambitious, passionate and accomplished.

Answer 3

Maybe you just haven't felt stimulated by anything, and if that's the case, that would explain your lack of motivation. It's hard to be "hard-working" when you don't know what you're working toward - or even care.

Perhaps you should start by asking yourself what your passions are. Then figure out what you can do in those areas.

Your question didn't provide details, so it's hard to give you a more "specialized" answer, but, if you feel that you're lazy, and are unhappy about it, why don't you try making yourself little "to do" lists everyday. Set out a few goals that you'd like to accomplish each day, and do your best to reach them; if you don't get everything done, don't worry, just try to tackle them the next day. You'll feel good when you feel you've accomplished the things you planned for that day, and eventually, you'll accomplish something much bigger.

I think the key is to know yourself (ie., what your passions are, what you're good at), and organized thinking -- that's why I feel the daily lists might help you.

Answer 4

I don't think anyone is naturally lazy and wishy-washy. It's just a way that your used to for some reason. Set your mind to being more mature and ambitious. Find someone who can be a role model for you and see what they have done to be the person they are. It doesn't hurt to copy someones ways. You can change but only if you want to and try very hard. Good Luck!

Answer 5

If you truly want to change your natural tendency to be lazy and indecisive, then you need to take an objective look at yourself to see what you're going to need in order to make the change work for you.
It is possible to change. People can change easier than most anything in the world, especially when they really want or need it.
How to change is simple. If you're lazy and indecisive, try to do a 180 degree turn in the other direction. This is the quickest way...kinda like quitting laziness cold-turkey. You'd just be more active, do what needs to be done when it needs to be done, and make the best decisions you can with what information is available to you.
The best way to accomplish anything is to have a plan. Not everyone can just flip 180 degrees in the other direction and adopt a new mind-set and strategy for living. But with a plan anyone can make a goal happen. Simple enough, just write down what you want and then think of the necessary steps you'll have to take to get there. Creating your plan is going to get the ball rolling, and will add an unconscious energy to your wish because when you take action your mind will notice and "think" that this is important to you. It will get easier and easier as you go along.
You know what you want. Now, get rid of what you don't want.

Answer 6

it's not easy to get into this situation. the first thing you must do is recognize what it is you really want to be passionate about. it's not a question of maturity and calling yourself lazy and wishy-washy only enables you to think that is true. you are what you are and that's where your ambition comes from, the need to accomplish. set goals and reach for them, anytime you feel like you failed and want to give up. look at your mistake as a lesson and then focus on the goal and what you need to do. please don't hurt anybody in this process. be true to you and recognize what you really need to be healthy and happy.

Answer 7

If you're serious about it, and willing to try anything, then pray to God for those abilities. He says that if you ask, you will receive. I only say this because it's worked for me. I wanted to be more faithful and motivated and kept praying for it. If you're not ready to pray, the other bible concept you can apply is declaring that you are whatever you want to be. It's basically positive self reinforcement, and putting your mental state where it can conceive of a different behaviour. So say out loud, I'm ambitious! and believe in it. Surround yourself with people who have these characteristics, and they will start to rub off on you. And finally, out it into action! write down three things everyday you want to do...call your grandma, make up your bed and make a salad for your mom...and do them! ticking them off will let you see your accomplishments, and when you flip through the list at the end of the week, you'll realise that you've actually got most of the qualities you want!

Answer 8

Yes it can. I used to be that way. Then one day the horrible realization that people are kind because they want something from or they want to keep you in your place, wishy-washy I finally saw what I had to do. The key is, if you have had enough of people pushing you around, become a ***** because that is the only way you won't get stepped on.

Answer 9

Take a motivation course. Listen to tapes. Do something worthwhile each day until you begin to gain some self-esteem. Don't give up on yourself. Everyone feels lazy and wishy-washy at times. You are who you are and you have a right to be here.

Answer 10

yes this can change. Also try to set goals for yourself like you already set 4 goals but try to just accomplish 1 goal at a time. If people say that u don't dress appropriate than try do stuff with out people asking u to do it also help Friends out. Just take it 1 day at a time

Answer 11

I have the same problem sometimes... it can be changed if you really want it. Ask a doctor about it. You could be suffering from something like depression or an imbalace of hormones. If he says your are fine, then this is a character flaw and you have to search within yourself to correct it.