If you are in the right? But your spouse is stubborn.
2006-07-26 06:18:53 · 21 answers · asked by Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stick to the facts of the problem. Eliminate name calling. Stay on the subject. Never bring up past arguments, either. IF y'all can do that, then y'all are no longer fighting, but discussing. A fight occurs when someone is not getting their way and thinks that's wrong. Or their point of view isn't being taken seriously. When a mature couple argues, it's okay to agree to disagree. Compromise, and be the first to offer a compromise, but the other person has to buy into the compromise, too. Stubborness and spite have no place in any Mature relationship, let alone the occasional spats even Mature people get into with each other.
2006-07-26 06:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. Mostly because something that works for one couple mught not for another. Been married 11 years and still do not have all the answers on this but it seems the best way is to learn to communicate and pick your battles. Not only that but pick your TIMING to bring up issues. It seems to be not only in the when and how you approach a situation but how you handle it. Men are stuborn, but so are women. You have to decide what things are petty and which things are really as important as you think they are. Leave the petty things alone and just deal with the things that are realistically important. Some things are not worth the headache while others can be crutial to the health of the relationship. But, as I said it is all in the approach and presentation and timing. You can not bring up an issue that is likely to start a fight when one of you is already in a bad mood. Pick a time when you are having a true conversation and both of you are in good spirits. Do NOT do the "you,you, you" thing. Wording is crutial to keeping things in perspective,especially with someone who is stuborn. The WRONG wording will automatically throw anyone into defensive mode. The natural reaction is to fire back..thus begins yet another pointless arguement. I finally looked into educating myself with books on effective, healthy communication skills and have used what I have learned and things go much better than they used to. Knowledge is POWER. Good luck sweetie. Anything I can do, let me know. I will help if I can.
2006-07-26 06:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don´t sweat the small stuff. If you are arguing over something insignificant like the name of an actor or what to have for dinner that night just let it go. I know it´s hard but being right all the time is not always important. Most of all, try not to raise your voice or swear when fighting. It makes YOU the better, more educated person. I hate it when I know I´m right and my husband won´t admit it but I´ve had to learn to accept that we´re 2 different people with different opinions and personalities.
2006-07-26 06:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by Double 709 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let it go until you both calm down enough to talk it out like adults and you try to be objective and express your valid points b/c if you try while the other person is being stubborn then you'll get no where and it may create more of a problem!
2006-07-26 06:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will try to deal in a diplomacy ways. I dont care if he/she is stubborn but the best way to win the fight is avoid the fight.
2006-07-26 06:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by andriecool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We agree to disagree most of the time. Both of us are stubborn so most of the time both of us think the other is right. That is when you just agree to disagree and move on. Or come to an agreement that will satisify each other. Sometimes you just have to give in.
2006-07-26 06:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to any relationship. Just tell them how you feel and talk things out. Tell them that it doesn't matter what you are fighting about or who is right. It just matters that you love each other and want to stop fighting!:)
2006-07-26 06:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by AnnaBanana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's saying the same thing about you.
Don't let any disagreement every outdo the love you have for each other. Your love for each other comes first. Everything else is just details.
2006-07-26 06:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her cool down first. Approach the question in other days. Have facts that show she is wrong.
2006-07-26 06:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Zeuls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your shoes and see their point, sometimes right and wrong has nothing to do with the other person's feelings which do not disappear or become invalid because of anothers self righteousness
2006-07-26 06:22:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋