2006-07-26 06:17:33 · 18 answers · asked by mario_magic_66 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ive been married for 11 years and do the same thing because she is my soul mate she is strong willed and stands her ground, sex is awesome and we love each other more than ever, just fight its good to make up after-wards
2006-07-26 06:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by punkinhead0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys love each other so much then why you both are arguing? you both should work it out and fix the plm.. than not fix the plm.
I love my so much and we sometime have disagreement or mad or argue. we need to a break from eachother until both of us ready to talk and then find out how to solve it. that how I do with my wife and she do the same thing smiling.
we married for 9 years and we grow stronger and stronger by not getting upset, talking about it and need fix plm. not wait too long. stuff like that we learn and learn. We are still learning and we still like in marriage school we still learn how to work it out. We both know that we not going to go around easy way... we have 2 small children and we working on 3rd child smiling.
Try that and see.... I know that Marriage not easy sometimes, but be easy to learn now and make it work.
2006-07-26 13:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go away together for a weekend. Get away from the stresses of life and sit down and REALLY talk. Get to the bottom of the fights. Talk to each other about how they are affecting the marriage. Find out what it is your "really" fighting about. Speak your mind to each other and get it all out in the open. Once you find out exactly what it is, make a plan to change it. If that doesn't work, seek counseling.
2006-07-26 14:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe what you are going through is called the 7 year itch. I believe you are fighting because each of you wants to be the leader of the family. Your not able to find a satisfactory compromise to satisfy you both.
I would keep trying if there is true love there then a compromise will be found. If you find you can't and you really want the marriage to work perhaps a marriage councilor will help, but I have heard that they can also cause the marriage to break up. please get a personal reference before going to one.
2006-07-26 13:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it that way. It is your love to argue that makes your married success. Communication is important in relationship. however do compromise at times. too much of arguing is unhealthy. Learn to give and take, Basic of courting. Don't you find it is boring if ther is no argument or exchange of views?
2006-07-26 13:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by Zeuls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your arguing most of the time how both people feel comes out if not dont be afraid to ask what is going wrong. when you have what is wrong think about if you can change something to solve the problem. Actually take action on what is said to you. Most of the times people ask and dont really take action because they blame it on the other. so bassically talk about it and then see if you can do something about it.
2006-07-26 13:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, get a professional involved. A counselor will not judge or take sides, but they will help you communicate. They also help you find a way to resolve your problems with out arguing.
Try getting rid of the word "you" when you talk to your spouse. it sounds accusing and forces them to defend themselves. Also, don't use absolutes like "always" never" and "should"... nothing is black and white so you should give credit to the fact that they are not "always" wrong.
2006-07-26 13:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Greggath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax and let your mate have their way at times, learn to give and take. It's not worth all the fighting in the end when you look back at an empty room. Cause one of these days, one of you will for sure be gone if someone does not learn to bend.
2006-07-26 13:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by goneblonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I FOUND THE BEST WAY TO ARGUE IS ACTUALLY QUITE FUN, TRY THIS MAKE TIME BOTH YOU SIT ON THE COUCH WITH NOTE PAD AND BOTH HAVE A WRITING INSTRAMENT, NOW TO AGRUE YOU MUST WRITE DOWN YOUR COMPLANT, AND THE OTHER MUST WRITE THERE REBUTTLE, RULES BEING, DO NOT BRING UP THE PAST, THE PAST IS OVER WITH YOU CAN NOT CHANGE IT, BUT YOU CAN LEARN FROM IT, TRY IT, YOUR ARGUEMENT IS GOIN TO TURN INTO LAUGHTER!
2006-07-26 13:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by close_my_eyes2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to try marriage counseling.
If that doesn't work then maybe the best thing for you and your spouse is to get a divorce but try marriage counseling first.
It might help.
Good Luck.
2006-07-26 13:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋