MY wife is always Mean, and mad?

Question

my wife is always mad, mean, and I think she is bi-polar.. Is there a medication out there that could help her make her happy?
when I try to talk to her and tell her about problems ,she always turns it into a fight and says shes fine and thats its me!! She loves Dr Phil so I suggested that we talk to them and maybe even get on a show. But She doesn't think anything is wrong with her.
This has been going on for 7 years.. we fight, and I move out.. she gets nice to me again, I move back in. ( i am in real estate I own a few homes so I have always kept one open, for this reason).

Answer 1

She should see a therapist and get some medication, they have a variety of meds they give to people with disorders such as bi-polar. Sounds like she has you wrapped around her finger.

Answer 2

If there is a phyiscal cause for her meanness, she might find relief in medication, but first she will need to see a doctor. Someone who is "bio-polar" usually has times when she is very up and very happy and energetic interspersed with times when she is very low and depressed. There can be other physical causes for irritablitly including hormone levels, blood sugar problems, and brain tumors. But before anything can happen, you will have to get her to voluntarily look for an answer to a problem that right now she won't admit she has.

By far more common, bad behavior is the result of bad character. The fact that she is nice to you when you leave suggests that she knows the difference between being nice and being mean and that she can control herself when she wants to.

You need to decide what you want this marriage to be like and tell her both what you want from her and are willing to give her. Ask her what she needs from you and what it would take for her to be nice all (or at least most of) the time. Tell her what you need from her in order to stay and keep working on the marriage. Stop the off-again, on-again stuff and instead committ to staying and working on the marriage under specific circumstances which you discuss with your wife. For example, you can ask that your wife agree to go to a doctor and to attend marriage counseling with you.

If she's not willing to work on the marriage, it's probably time to move out for real until she is more serious about being married. In that case, don't move back in unless she is willing to meet those conditions.

Answer 3

Don't listen to all these people who are gunna suggest divorce. Suggest going to see a therapist, both of you together. There are meds to help her with depression, or if she really is bi-polar. My aunt is bi-polar. It took her a long time to realize it, but now she is happier than ever, and would not even consider going off the meds, cause they make her happy. Well, all I Can suggest is being there for her in every way you can, obviously she is having issues beyond her control. Even if they are small. Go see a therapist. It will help. Strike a deal with her. Tell her if there is nothing wrong, then the therapist will see that, and going would be a huge waste. See will jump on the chance to try and prove you wrong. Good luck with everything. Remember she needs you.

Answer 4

email me [e-mail] and let me know, I do think you need to call dr. phil since she love him so much and listen to him then he might help to solve the plm and do it call and find out don't give up. Reason you doing this because you love your wife and don't want to go though other people going though. Keep on contact Dr. Phil until get you both on the show and people can see if she is Bi-Polar or not. so we can learn from it. and so you too.

Let me knwo so I can watch the show to watch you and you and your wife very imporant to each other and take care of it. I know Dr. Phil will be glad to have you and yoru wife on the show. smiling.

Answer 5

Yes, their is medication for bipolar. Sounds like she has some symptoms of it. (my son is bipolar) They will also say there is nothing wrong with them and refuse help. She really needs to get help. Not only will it destroy your marriage it will destroy her life. She may never accept help. It's up to you if you want to continue on this roller coaster, because that is exactly what it is. My bipolar son has decided to hate me and blame me for his life. He never accepted help or the medications. Breaks my heart, but I know I can't force him, even though I miss him so very much in my life. He's a grown man now, living with bipolar without any help and it's rough. I hope your wife will agree to get checked out, not only for your sake, but for her sake as well. Bless you...

Answer 6

Perhaps it's good to go see a psychologist to find out what is the root cause for her behaviour & then take it from there. Medication is usually not a permanent solution as nobody likes it.

Answer 7

So far, you are just describing a normal girl.

However, there may be more to it. My ex-wife is diagnosed bi-polar, which was treatable with meds but she was bad about taking them. The rest of your story sounds all-too-familiar...

Answer 8

Tell her: "Listen X(x= her name): If you want me to continue being your husband, you've got to treat me as I treat you. You have to respect me.

Tell that with a calm voice, not yelling or losing your temper. Then report back what happened

Answer 9

Have her go to the doctors, they can test her, and if she is bipolar they will give her medication to help curve her actions!

Answer 10

wow seems like you have a lot going on there..... but that was good thinking on keeping a house open. for yourself.... but all i can say is some way you gotta find out whats wrong.....