have you ask yourself this the one i should not have married?

Answer 1

huh? can you rephrase?

Answer 2

I have been married 3 times. The third time, I believe it was a very successful marriage. Every time I asked myself that question. I think if you are not asking yourself questions in a relationship, you are likely under the influence of "LUV" of Lust or some drug, rather than true Love. In my experience, the shorter the time one goes from meeting a person to emotional and then sexual intimacy the more questions should be asked. All people put on a mask at first. You want to know what it will be like when the mask comes off. Ask yourself "Can I handle this?". Do I have enough energy for this relationship? High maintenance is OK, as long as you have the time, energy and desire and the benefits outweigh the output. Every relationship is a transaction. As selfish as this sounds, I need to feel that I am getting an equal deal. If I am putting out and not much is coming back, well, it's time to reevaluate. Time for something to change.

Answer 3

Oh yes! I questioned my intelligence in marrying my first husband who turned out to be a viscious monster. It's been 12 years since then and I still sometimes wonder how I could have been so stupid as to not see it coming. In my case, I know I am being too hard on myself because there were NO signs from which I could gather any kind of warning. He was a VERY good actor. I truely had NO idea it was coming until it did. I did NOT stick around long enough to see how bad it could really get. Many women get in their heads that they have NO way out or that they should stay because of some moral standard that they misinterperate or because they believe the man when they preach the woman's inability to go on without him for what ever reason (financial, etc.). The truth is that all this is crap and one only needs to break through said crap and make a stand. Get out! Later they will question how they could have been so stupid but I would rather question myself after the fact than continue to do so while staying in the situation. Realistically if you are still in it and asking then the question is How can I BE so stupid rather than How COULD I HAVE BEEN.

Answer 4

Yes!! I think I was married for a whole 15 minutes to Jamie and I got out of that as quickly as I got into it!! LOL

Answer 5

I've never been married but I have been "in love" on more than one occasion. lol Toward the end of all these "relationships" I ask myself that every time. Its kind of a let down...like damn, this just wasnt the one fore me. :(

Answer 6

Yes, whenever my husband and I have a fight but then I think about all the good times we´ve had and how much I love him and then I change my mind.

Answer 7

I don't ask myself this, I tell myself this everyday. I SHOULD NOT HAVE MARRIED (again) Mr. Right turned out to be Mr. Macho. Only God can help me out of this one.

Answer 8

yes I have. we have our problems his mom manly but I do love him and I have been with him since I was 15 and now i am 24. and have three kids i some times wonder if there is more out there. but I would not leave him I love him.

Answer 9

Yup. I'm happy that I made the marriage work for a few years but I'm happier now that it is over.

Answer 10

I think no matter how happy you are in your marriage, at times you ask that question of yourself. people who say they don't are kidding themselves.

Answer 11

Yes, I have and so I did not get married and I am still a forty year old virgin. ; )