If your wife was caught online speaking sexually to others would you be comfortable with her remaining in chat rooms/forums? Now what if she is a christian does this make a difference?
2006-07-26 06:06:18 · 15 answers · asked by isanynameavialable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely not. I would be upset. I would let her( in my case him) know how it makes me feel and tell her (him) I don't feel comfortable with that happening anymore. Christians make mstakes too so that has no bearing on the underlying issue. She may need help. If you are involved in a church, maybe there is someone there you and her can talk to to get her some help. Good luck!
2006-07-26 06:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every marriage needs boundaries that both the husband and wife agree on. Would your wife be okay with you talking sexually to other women in chat rooms? Once you had been caught, would she trust you to continue going to chat rooms? I think not. Your wife has broken trust and will have to demonstrate some changes before she can get that trust back. She needs to make a commitment to stay out of chat rooms--maybe to stay off the Internet.
Does it make a difference that she is a "Christian"? It can if that means she is more likely to want to make the marriage work and to try to do the right thing.
2006-07-26 06:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christian (who knows) but, my i caught my husband on an adult chat site and was pissed. Not because he was chatting but because he had women wanting to meed him. I just got even and placed my own profile on the site. I have to say it was fun but not right to do when you are married. He gets on the computer now and I am always wondering if he is chatting again. I guess I will only know if I dig right!!! So, if it makes you uncomfortable and she is not willing to stop then that should tell you right there that she is on the edge of cheating and needs some excitement in her life. You could try to spice things up a bit and see what happens.
2006-07-26 06:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not acceptable at all. Christian or not, she is married and should stay off the chat rooms all together. There are too many weirdos out there on chats. Tell her she needs to stay away from the chats rooms, that it's important for your marriage that she not do this. Hope she listens.
2006-07-26 07:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of her religion, she should'nt be talking sexually to other people if she's married. I would definetly be upset with her because that's a form of cheating in a way. I'd probably tell her not to go to the chat rooms/forums anymore and if she still does- RED FLAG ALERT!!! Good Luck!!
P.S.
She does'nt sound very Christian.
2006-07-26 06:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a husband and a wife speak openly about this activity and it's done with the consent of both, then it's between them.
Now, if I caught my mate doing it on the sly....???
When people try to hide something it's because somewhere inside they know it's wrong. Since you said you "caught" her I am going to assume you didn't know about it and approve of it ahead of time.
As far as her "Christian" faith...being the granddaughter of a preacher...I was always taught, if it's not something you would do with Jesus in the room, you shouldn't do it.
Now...my mother back tracked on my wedding day and modified that rule a bit....she wanted Grandbabies awful bad !
I didn't have the heart to tell her neither of us were virgins...LOL
2006-07-26 06:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you caught her being sexual with other people, and now she's still hanging around in chat rooms?
It's an addiction...the chatrooms...the sex talk...it's a fix. The only way to break it is go cold turkey. If she's not going to respsect your wishes to stop...that's a respect issue - she doesn't care about your feelings, only her own need to be sexual with other guys. On top of that...sex talk leads to more...pretty soon, the fix needs to be bigger and bigger.
Being a Christian makes no difference. Actions speak - labels do not.
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2015-02-04 02:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a christian, she should know better. But we are human also and need someone. You should get her off the computer and the chat rooms. She might be bored, get her a hobby.
2006-07-26 06:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very, very uncomfortable with her doing that. There is a problem. You need to confront the situation in a gentle way. As for her being a christian, her secret sin is being revealed, it's the light that brings forth a rich harvest.
2006-07-26 06:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by Tyranus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋