A lot has happened in our relationship over the past year to lead me to doubt her when she speaks to me. Is that going to go away with time???
2006-07-26 06:00:58 · 64 answers · asked by isanynameavialable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say that is a definite problem. Seek marriage counseling.
2006-07-26 06:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by The_Yak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you really try very hard it should get better. Are you holding a grudge against her and trying to punish her-If you think this is the case try to talk things out with her! A man and his wife should take the time to sit down with each other and discuss anything for at least one hour a day!!! Only a relationship where the communications can be kept open will survive long term!! Both people need to trust each other are go back to the point that the trust was broken and get their SUPPER GLUE piecing their relationship back together again- I hope that something that I have said will be a help to you and your wife!!
2006-07-26 06:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on you. If she lied to you and you know for sure she did, she will have to build your trust again. But if you just think she lied and you have no proof, maybe you are just imagining that she did.
If she did lie, then you will have to work it out in your own head as to what it will take to trust her again. Did she lie because you made her afraid to tell you the truth or did she lie to cover her own guilt.
There are many reasons for deception. If she was afraid to tell something for fear that you will not forgive her or you will treat her differently then you will have to examine your way of dealing.
If it's a matter of cheating on you, then again you will have to examine the reasons he cheated and if you can ever truly forgive her. Most people don't cheat unless they are unhappy at home. The key there is most, some people are just evil. But if she was unhappy at home, why was she unhappy. Two wrongs don't make a right but at least it can be understood.
Everything can be fixed with time if you give it a chance but if you constantly remind her of the past, it will only get worse. You may not be able to trust her for a while but don't keep telling her that you can't. Give her a chance and have patience.
Choose to forgive!
Good Luck, hope all goes well for the two of you.
2006-07-26 06:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a problem b/c if you do not have trust in your relationship, you do not have a relationship. I seriously doubt that with time, these feeling will go away completely b/c I cheated on my b/f (now husband) about 3 years and he has never completely gotten over it. I have not done it since then, but he seems as though he can not completely forgive me either.
2006-07-26 06:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been where you are before, The best thing to do is to dicuss it with her. She is supposed to be the person you trust more than anyone or anything and vice versa. So when she is lying to your face it makes you doubt your relationship altogether. The best thing you can do is sit down and discuss how you feel. I know this is tough sometimes for a guy to "discuss their feelings" but thi sis how most women operate. There may be things that you are doing and unaware of that encouarges her to not always be so truthful. Take it one day at a time, both of youm and realize that there is no easy fix. Yes ocver time you can move oon....but the key here is time and effort.
2006-07-26 06:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by sragic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But if you really love her and want to maintain your marriage, maybe you should both consider marriage counseling. You can never literally forget what someone does to you, but you can forgive them. It may be difficult at first, but you must not throw her mistakes in her face if she screws up. Not saying that you are doing that, just a suggestion. It will better the relationship if you discuss your feelings with her. Tell her how you are feeling. You will regain trust for her, over time. She just has to be patient. Good luck! You are a true 'soldier' for not just getting a divorce. It shows that you are committed to the relationship. Will pray for you both!
2006-07-26 06:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really but you should give her a little trust i mean you can have a relationship without trust but it would just be stressful and then it might turn out that she was telling you the thruth and you would feel stupid about it. I feel the same way with my gf sometimes sounds like everything she says is a lie but you shouldn't stress it and just see what happens think of something else
2006-07-26 06:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by Dum Spiro Spero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loosing all trust in someone leads me to believe that there have been things going on recently that probably exceed the past year. It is obviously deep rooted. Easier said then done...you could find out what the hell is going on with her. A little easier but requiring more effort...go to couples counseling. Good luck.
2006-07-26 06:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts, people don't change overnight. They may "do better", it that person is still always there. Life is too short to live with that horrible feeling someone you love is doing you wrong. I know, I have been there and decided to not let that happen to me again. I let go of someone I loved, because they didn't love me back. I am much happier. It took a good year to get over it, but it was worth it!
2006-07-26 06:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Christie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a huge problem. It will destroy the trust and without trust you have nothing. The question is, is she making you doubt her or is it all in your mind? If she is trying to earn your trust back and your still doubting her, this is a problem.
2006-07-26 06:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think some counseling would help. If your wife has done something to betray your trust but you have both moved on from there, think of what this does to her if she is being completely faithful and yet you don't trust her. After a while, she may think, jeez, if he's not going to trust me anyway, why not just do what I want?
2006-07-26 06:04:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋