well i have thought this over and over again and sometimes just pisses me off to do so! This makes me angry and want to hate him. Now that Im 22 I dont care as much. but when I was 15 he showed up at the door to see me once and left. Acting like he cared. However I've found a way I could reach him but am undecided as of the moment!
2006-07-26 05:35:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe you need to have the opportunity to tell him how angry you are at him. You should write down all the things that make you angry and then try to tell them to him. The important thing is not to carry around that much anger for too much longer. Once you release it you can decide whether or not you need answers or explanations from him. Good luck.
2006-07-26 05:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by superrrmodel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know it would be hard... I don't know personally... but I have an understanding... My nephew is just 9 and his dad has forgotten about him except for trying to put my sister through more court charges... He just thinks he can get money from her, but he can't even win a case because he's a drug addict, so my sister gets his money, and she very much deserves it... BUT ANYWAY... I see the way it affects my nephew not having him there, and he looks for a father figure in everyine, but then again, I see how it scares him when his dad's name comes on the caller I.D. and he runs away... So, since you're older now... I think you should call your dad... just to see what he's like... if he's no good, at least you'll know. Maybe there were other circumstances that kept him away... but you never know till you call... but you don't HAVE to talk to him after that... you know??
2006-07-26 12:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by ~J♥L♥L~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard. You have to do what you feel is right for you! I'm sure you want questions answered and you have the right to know. And you have the right to be pissed, it doesn't stop the hurting until you get it all off your chest. And even if it doesn't work out the way you want you will have a clear mind and you can move on....I wish you luck and keep an open mind!
2006-07-26 12:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question. You have to ask yourself are you prepared if you do call and he does not want anything to do with you? Trust me my ex-boyfriend kept trying to call his Dad on father's day, Christmas, just to see if he can talk to him. He wanted something from him and each time he got rejected he just hurt more. Be prepared that that may happen. Ask yourself what you want from this phone call before making it. Make sure you manage your expectations before making this huge decision. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-26 12:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly don't the story or your particular situation, but yes I would definitley go see him. My father died when I was a little girl and I would do anything to see him again. See him NOW while he is still alive. Listen to his reasons. Give him the benefit of the doubt.
2006-07-26 12:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jill P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. My father left when I was 7 and at this point, I have nothing but negative to say to him, so why bother. Yes, I think he needs to hear and know what he did to me, but at the same time, I am much too mature to stoop to the level that I know I would.
2006-07-26 12:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would call him and at least put closure to this for your own sake. You can't go through life being agry at him, it takes too much energy. Maybe hear his side of the story, there might still be something to salvage here. But at least let him know how you feel. Good Luck!
2006-07-26 12:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, If you would like to have some type of communication with your father go ahead and call him even though some time has passed it wouldn't' hurt even if its just to get some closure, but you're grown so if you don't want to u don't need to.
2006-07-26 12:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by tha_social 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't seen or talked to my father in 26 yrs. It used to be really hard when I was younger and got easier as I got older. I have no desire to contact him whatsoever. You sound like you want to so you should. But dont expect anything. You will most definitely be let down.
2006-07-26 12:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is best for you at this point. If you want to work on a relationship with your father, do so. If you don't want to get your feelings hurt by your father, don't call him. It is up to you.
2006-07-26 12:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋