People are always saying they are my friends but outside of work or a few dates, I don't see them. I think of a friend as being someone you can call upon anytime for any reason. I don't have anyone I can talk to when I have a problem or anyone to help me if I need them. I only see these friends at work and there is no opportunity do do anything with them as I don't have breaks or lunch and we work different hours. I met a guy who took me out a couple times and we talk everyday and he is off for the summer but when If I mention having trouble getting to work in the storm, he just says, hope you get there ok and hope you don't have to take a taxi but he never offers to give me a ride to work or anything. I would pay him for gas if he did but it seems it never crosses his mind. Same thing when my dad was in the hospital, no one visited, the just said, oh I hope he gets better soon. My friends seem to be limited to just talking and seeing eachother very little.
2006-07-26 05:32:11 · 16 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
honestly i don't think they are really ur friends more like acquaintances for reference to other people eg. i work with her etc. true friends r there for u no matter what they might not always be easily accessable to talk to but they care weather or not ur family is sick if u reach home ok how u feel etc. so i don't think there are really your friend cause they would be there for u when u need them no matter what
2006-07-26 05:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by vicsha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many types of friends not just the generic friend and best friend types.Everyone has diferent ways of being friendly, some are more reculsive so may tend to keep things to themselves if only to no bother their friends with what they would consider petty problems or there are the jovial types that are the life of every party and help you when your in need.Honestly you never know who's a friend and who's not.
2006-07-26 12:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lone Silver Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person whom you can truly "call upon anytime for any reason" is your mother.
It sounds like you have trouble asking for what you want. Ask your friend for a ride. Ask your friends to visit your dad in the hospital.
2006-07-26 12:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sigh... welcome to the indifferent world...
but also bear in mind. real friendships are a 2 way street. u also have to give selflessly to get that back. that is life true and true.
those at work are the ones who are there for a season.
the real ones will be those u described already, but ones who u have to relate with also. have you also cared enough about their lives for them to be more interested in yours?
i'm sure u will get some lifelong friends soon, there are still good ppl out there, so dont give up just yet...
2006-07-26 12:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people as acquaintances, not friends. Everyone has them in their circle of life. If you want to have good friends,you're going to have to go out on a limb and be friendly to others and offer to go beyond the surface of a relationship. You have to give to receive. And you have to be willing to give without expecting to receive. Ask someone to have a drink with you, or come over and watch a movie. You're not going to have "friends" knocking on your door, honey, if you're not willing to make yourself vulnerable to a real friendship. Good Luck.
2006-07-26 12:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
freinds are friends...... very few of us are lucky enough to ever find a, what is called a best and true friend..... if we even have just 1 of those we are blessed indeed..... I have one of those kind and my husband has 2.... 1 is his brother..... dont worry to much about it...... 1/2 the world does not have what you are looking for..... but some day you might, and if that does happen be sure you nurish it every day..... like a growing flower..... God bless
2006-07-26 12:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you.....some people are just acquaintances, but i would suggest to you that you try to be more of a closer friend to someone and let the relationship develop. I find that people just have their own lives to live, but if there is someone who you would like to be closer with give it a try......can't hurt. Invite them over to watch a movie or go to dinner.....
2006-07-26 12:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some friends are closer than others. Try to stick to them more often than you do others. Its never bad to get closer to anyone either. Call him just to talk sometime. Talking is always what gets people closer.
2006-07-26 12:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by LoveLyLonEr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't sound like very good friends at all, sounds as if they are making excuses not want to get involved with you and go out and have fun, something is definately wrong with is picture. maybe you should find some new friends that are willing to be your friends and not use you.
2006-07-26 12:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well fed up this is the real world and "ITS ALL ABOUT ME" I have found that we usually have 2-4 friends we can actually call friends. the rest are carpet baggers who simply put on personnas about being your friend, most of them are not. sad to say most people care about themselves and so caught up in hte worldly things around them they barely have time to see the forest for the trees
2006-07-26 12:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by pisof49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋