My boyfriend and I were making out the other night, and things were getting pretty intense. He was really breathing very heavily and softly moaning. He was on top of me (we were both wearing our clothes), and he was touching my butt and breasts. He didn't touch me anywhere else, and I didn't touch him down there. Later on he told me he had an orgasm from our make-out session that night. He appologized and seemed really embarrassed about it...why? Is it possible he could have actually had one just from making out, especially since I didn't even touch him down there or was he making that up? What are signs that your man is having or just had an orgasm? All I've done with a guy is make out (I'm 16), so I'm pretty sexually inexperienced and I was just wondering. He's 18 by the way, and not a virgin.
2006-07-26 05:30:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Yes, it's possible. There is a lot more to sex than just penetration.
2006-07-26 05:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by gorfette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. If he was excited (and he was on top of you so you should have been able to tell he had an erection) and you were both doing sexually stimulating things (even though you weren't touching his penis) he could easily have an orgasm just from the situation and from the pressure of his erection against his pants. Men have wet dreams - orgasms just from dreams while they are asleep - particularly when they are young.
Men react differently when they orgasm. Some yell or moan, some get really still and their body gets tense. Usually right afterward they collapse a bit, like they have just finished a sprint.
A word to the wise - be careful! If you eventually have sex make sure that you use birth control - preferably a condom with spermicide. I would recommend not even really playing with him if he is not wearing a condom. You know he is not a virgin so disease is a concern, but I am more concerned about you getting pregnant at a young age. Give yourself a chance to enjoy your youth, finish school and all that stuff before becoming a parent!
2006-07-26 05:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Novice restauranteur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, sounds like you are not as inexperienced sexually as you might like to have us all think; making -out certainly should enlighten you and you admit to having done this. Anyway, if you cannot tell that someone (a man) is having an orgasm, you need to repeat the process because really, it's fairly straightforward; you described it rather well in your second sentence. And if he is 18 and NOT a virgin, then I don't really see why he would be embarrassed. And yes, of course you can have an orgasm from simly making out. What dear, do you think SEX is? Anytime you are making out you are in essence, engaging in sex. It may not be full intercourse, but it's sex nonetheless. You might want to read a few books on the subject, ahem.
2006-07-26 05:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello:
This answer is in response to your question posted on yahoo about your boyfriend.
The answer to your question is YES. Men are very visual when it comes to sexuality. He had what is known as a "spontaneous orgasm. He probably felt guilty because he had an orgasm and you didnt. Men are very quirky when it comes to issues like this. It is perfectly normal for men to have spontaneous orgasms, we even have them in our sleep if we are dreaming about having sex. There are erogenous zones all over the body both in males and females. You could have touched one of his erogenous zones (one that is not even near his genitals), ie. like the neck, armpits, ears, etc. that sent him over he edge. Be honored that you turn him on so much that he had a spontaneous orgasm without even having sex.
As far as signs that he had an orgasm, is heavy breathing, moaning, and a tensing up of the entire body. Another sign that he is getting ready to have an orgasm is that the penis will get even harder than it was before and the testicles will get stiff and lie up close to the body rather than hanging down. His skin will also turn beet red too before and during an orgasm and his heart rate will rise rapidly.
I hope this helped answer your question and alleviate some of your concerns.
Regards,
Warren Shaffer, M.D.
2006-07-26 05:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by doctordad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is possible. What that is called is 'Premature Ejaculation,' which basically means, to put it crudely, he 'came.' When a guy has an orgasm, his penis 'ejaculates' semen. This is the stuff that contains sperm and can get you pregnant. So he probably ejaculated in his pants, and yes, that is embarrassing for a guy. But it's certainly OK.
That said, good for you for not going too far with this guy. He may be a nice person, but he's 18 and you're not, and that is technically against the law for him to have sex with you in most states. Keep being good - and don't worry about him being embarrassed!
2006-07-26 05:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is possible. Arousal can be caused by different sensations- he was touching you. Oral sex is still sex and you can still get sexually transmitted disease. Plus I have no idea why he is so brave about it but you are under age (under18) and him even touching you in oral sex is considered statutory rape, for which he can go to prison, regardless if you agreed or not. If anyone learns about what you to are doing he can get in serious trouble. Wait till you are 18, you got your whole life ahead of you to experience with sex.
2006-07-26 05:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, a guy can experience an orgasm with clothes on. it's called premature ejaculation. how to tell? his penis stays hard till he releases and then the sperm will be wet in his pants. then his penis will reduce in size and get soft again. if he's embarrassed, it may be because he could not control his desire. or he was afraid you think it was wrong. NOT! p.s. hope you are on birth control as it only takes one sperm to get you pregnant.
2006-07-26 05:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by slingblade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that has been known to happen to men even though they have clothes on. Nothing wrong with it at all. It usually called dry sex. When both partners have thier clothes on still but they end up ejaculating inside thier clothes.
2006-07-26 07:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by jacoboctober11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted to ride you like Sea-Bisquit.
You should reward him and give him a little naked action.
2006-07-26 05:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by the_irish_mick_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are not as open about sex as females and maybe he was embarrassed
2006-07-26 05:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋