what would you do if you husband cheated after being married for only 2 months?

Answer 1

get a good attorney.

Answer 2

My husband cheated on me after six months. I ended up divorcing him instead of getting an annulment because it ended up being faster and cheaper. But, if you don't want to chance any legal obligations to him in the future.... I would get an annulment.

And if you're upset at the person he's involved with, just talk to other people about it. Don't contact the other person.... I never met the "other woman." As a result, I can thank my lucky stars that she came along and made it possible to find out what a slime I had married so I could get rid of him and find someone better.

Answer 3

Writing is on the wall.

BUT

You have either one or 2 choices:

Dump him and make a clean break.

OR

Go to a marriage councelor, if you thnk the marriage is worth saving. Wether it be fear, or if he was like this, you need to get an explaination from him as to why. Just be sure you don't frame the conversation as a shouting match or who can win an argument. You are to find out reasons why so you can use them as a guide on what to do.

Don't waste your time trying to make him realize what he did was wrong by telling him how much of a creep he is, hoping to shame him and change his behaviour. He''ll put his gaurd up and give you an argument that may escalate the conversation that will have nothing to do with the "why" he did it. Just tell him it was unacceptable what he did and why should he be given a second chance.

Remember: It's you who now have to protect yourself and put yourself in a position where if you have any relationships (should you decide to terminate this one), you'll be able to recognize problems before hand and know how to deal with them in a manner that puts you in the position to control (yourself) in an empowering (intellegent) way.

Trust your instincts first and let it be your guide, but remain in control of yourself. A part of you may want to tear him apart, maybe not, but appear and know what your doing and you'll get all the answers and solution to this problem.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

If he cheated only after 2 months of marriage chances are he will continue to do it if you stay!!!
There was never a true comment to begin with!!!
If you stay and work through this you will always have the "what if" question every time he walks out the door..
Only you have the answer to this question!!!

If it were me and only married two months I would probably leave because you see he probably had been cheating through out the whole relationship!!!
Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

I don't think you have a choice. If you would cheat after only two months, he's got a serious problem.
Most people are in marital bliss for at least the first year of marriage, only thinking about their spouse.
If you don't get out now, you are going to have a lifetime of heartache, misery and pain. What if you get a disease from this man? What if he has a child with someone else?
And think about if you guys have kids, is this a good relationship to bring a child into?
I know how difficult it is, but get out now. You will regret it if you don't. Just be thankful that you found out now and not after you had three kids and a house note and 15 years of marriage.
This is just my advice. Of course, you must make the final decision based on what you think is right.
Good luck to you

Answer 6

The first year of marriage is the honeymoon period where everything is supposed to be fresh and new, if he would cheat on you within the first 2 months of marriage he was probably doing it before you were married and may time the chance arises and I'm sorry to tell you this will probably not change.

Get out now before you get more vested into the relationship. Good luck with your new life.

Answer 7

I would assume he's not exactly who you thought he was before you married him.
Since it's such a short time, I would seek an annulment instead of a divorce if possible (unless you have a prenuptial agreement). You were deceived/frauded. It'd be hard for a judge to deny one. I think it would be best to move on as soon as you can, to prevent it from getting worse as time goes on. Normally I'd say go to a marriage counselor, but after only two months it seems like he always had other things on his mind than you.
Hire an attorney. Money well spent on this one. (If you're asking for yourself, then good luck hon.)

Answer 8

It's only been two months. This is supposed to be a time of enamorment for you both. He is never going to be emotionally invested in this relationship, and you are never going to be able to trust him. It may be hard, but you have to leave him- as long as you know for sure he did it. It's only going to get worse, and I know from experience, once a cheater always a cheater, at least on you. I had to leave my fiance 3 months before our wedding because he cheated on me. Do you want to spend your whole life wondering if he's with someone else if he is ten minutes late coming home. You deserve better. Everyone does. Good luck!

Answer 9

He didn't wait long to wreck your marriage. Leave him, once a cheat always a cheat. I'm sorry this happened to you two months after the best day of your life.

Answer 10

You have to reevaluate you relationship. After 2 months of marriage and he started to cheat on you is really beyond imagination. It will get worse as your marriage age. Do what you got to do, get him to change and be committed to you and only you. Otherwise there is only one option, that is split.

Answer 11

Seek a counseling, where you go individually, and as a couple. Prefer Christian people. Make sure they have experience dealing with marital problems. Since marriage is a covenant that why I say Christian people that been marry for over 10yrs. I wouldn;t sleep with him until you do that. Go to this website http://www.family.org/married/

read the articles about Husbands & Wives > Rebuilding Trust in the Aftermath of an Affair

Personal Stories
Rebuilding Trust in the Aftermath of an Affair
by John E. Paul

The carcass of the plane lay strewn across the ground, gnarled sections spread around like a jigsaw puzzle. This scene played through my mind as I thought about the destruction that I had perpetrated upon my own family by my unfaithfulness. I tried to imagine the daunting task of putting the pieces of my marriage back together in the wake of the affair.

Aviation investigators often reassemble the fragments of a crashed plane to try and discover the cause of the crash. In some cases they are able to restore nearly every scrap to its place. Of course, the finished product looks nothing like the original. Not only is the whole greatly marred, but upon close examination, even the pieces have great defects.

Likewise, the task of restoring a marriage is multifaceted. Though each case is unique in some aspects, I have found — through counseling, reading and interaction with others — that similarities abound. For us, healing began at our church door.

Apart from our Christian fellowship and God’s guidance, I honestly believe that we would have become one more casualty. Elders and friends gathered around us like a protective mother hovering over her wounded offspring. I can recall very clearly some of the major interventions, and many minor ones along the way. Numerous Christian friends upheld us in prayer.

The Practical
Initially, we sought professional counseling. From there we turned to literature. Some helpful titles were: When Good Men Are Tempted, Surviving an Affair, When Godly People Do Ungodly Things, and Love is….

I was fortunate in my job to be off during the summer. Being together 24/7 was extremely difficult for my wife and me, but it was also a tremendous catharsis. I cannot count the hours we spent together reading, discussing and crying. We have a trampoline in our backyard, under an oak tree. We spent many summer afternoons lying there under God’s canopy, seeking to knit our lives back together.

I rarely went anywhere without my wife — and when I did, I carried a cell phone and made sure that I was with someone who could verify where I was. Later, the Lord provided a timely job opening for me. I was able to relocate and remove myself from the presence of the other woman.

The Spiritual
My spiritual journey has been so deeply personal that I am not sure my words will capture my heart. Prior to my infidelity, I had ministered at a conservative seminary for nine years, and had been intimately involved in my church. This background made the healing process more difficult for my wife in some ways, because the things I pursued spiritually appeard to be the same things I had done in the past. In my wife’s words, "They didn’t work then to keep you from sin — why should I trust them now?"

Being an "isolationist," I had to force myself to seek solid male Christian fellowship. Daily I am in the Word. Prayer has become paramount in my life, both as a weapon of war and an oasis. Wednesday night prayer group at our church has been a healing balm.

The last thing I do before I sleep at night is take my wife in my arms and pray.

The Lifelong Journey
Our daughter made arrangements for us to renew our wedding vows in Maui, Hawaii. With the sunset as our backdrop in McKenna Cove, my wife and I promised our faithfulness, as we had done 20 years earlier. We honeymooned at Snoqualmie Falls when we returned.

Like the shattered plane, some pieces have been put back into place. However, sin comes with a price, and our marriage is forever changed. Restored sections lack the original luster and many scraps still litter our lives. The reconstruction has begun. The process is a lifelong commitment.

John E. Paul (pseudonym) is a freelance writer in the Pacific Northwest.


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You just got married. I sorry that happen to you. Talk to sombody right away that you trust. Not nobody that never been married. Marriage is a commitmmemt. Girlfriends with boyfriends will not work. It can be helpful. I prefer talking to someone that in the same situation or has helped people in the situation. Like the websites above. Good Luck.