HELP ME! pleeease????

Question

there's this guy who i ran into last week,and he likes
me. i told him that i am a married,but he doesn't get
it. now it seems like whereever i go he pops up,
giving me flowers,he showed up at my job last night.
he's not talking diry to me, he's just telling me that
he's gonna take me away from my husband.........
What do i say to him for him to just leave me the
hell alone?

yes! i am really married,i've been married
since i was 18.
i told my husband about this,he "confronted" the guy,ended up locked up for "confronting" him.

i recently had him banned from my place of work.

thank you all for your advice. I needed that. thanx.

Answer 1

Well a court restraining order can work. If he's bothering you at your place of buisness have security or the police remove him. If he shows up at your home ask him to leave, then call the police for tresspassing. But real quick you should look up the non-emergency number for your local police department and program it into your phone or day planner. also inform your husband of the situation and what your doing to handle it. Stop being polite and start being very rude so he gets the point to go away.

Answer 2

You don't accept flowers or gift from him and you continue to tell him you're married. When he's saying "he's going to take you away from your husband" and you've continued to walk past him he'll get fed up and leave you alone. If it gets to the point that he's frightening you then you need to call the police. Don't let your husband confront him because he could end up hurt or in jail.

Answer 3

Tell the guy that you're going to tell your husband if he does'nt stop leaving you alone. And tell your employer that this man is harrassing you as well. And be sure to tell your husband what's going on, it's good not to keep stuff like that a secret because you could appear to look suspicious. Don't accept anything he gives you as well.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

Tell the police and then your husband. You tell the police first that way if your husband beats him up you already have a report on file and the husband won't get in as much trouble

Answer 5

Tell him that if he doesn't stop you'd tell your husband about him,that should freak him away,if he don't stop go ahead and tell your husband,also by telling him you'd be avoiding the opportunity of your husband knowing from someone else then i think it would be hard to explain that it was ONLY him(that guy) and that you're innocent.BTW i hate people like this guy trying to spoil your marriage specially that you're not interested! Selfish bustard!

Answer 6

Let your husband know about this guy....he has all the right to defend you from unwanted advances...and although you sound like you want no part of this other guy, if your husband is not aware of this, then this other guy can use this lack of communication to make your husband suspicious of you...bring it all out in the open...let your husband handle this.

Answer 7

ok, ithink you should tell him that his actions are busy messing up the friendship between you 2 and if he wants to have you as a friend he'd better stop and if that doesnt work then tell him if he really has feelings for you he will respect the fact that you dont wanna leave your husband, option 3 is to tell ure husband about him.

Answer 8

Have you said anything to him yet? If not then you should've. You need to tell him to stop or you will call the police because he's stalking you. That can lead to a dangerous situation. People have been killed and raped by stalkers. Make sure you tell your husband.

Answer 9

Just be honest with him, and tell him you don't want to be taken away from your husband and that you are happy where you are. And if this does not help, you may end up having to tell your husband, and let him resolve the situation.

Answer 10

Sounds like this guy is almost stalking you... Tell your husband. Together you both can handle the situation. Bring in the authorities if nothing gets through to this guy.