Im a girl 24 years old ihave a sister she is 43 years old. next week she is going t o divorce. her husband has cheated on her.now she has many finantial and spritual problems.but no one underestand her.even my elder sister who we really counted on her has dissapointed us.she is alone and frustrated and I can feel it I can see it in her tears but no one else we are alone even our parents are indifferent.I can live any longer with there cruel people.Im tired Im really tired .please tell me some thing there is no one who can underestand me. i CANT LIVE ANY LONGER.
2006-07-26 05:17:15 · 11 answers · asked by sara sea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey. Why are you letting everyone's problem affect you? Its their problem not yours. And why is your sister's divorce such a disappointment to everyone? She's the victim here since her husband cheated on her and you're all acting as if it was her fault. Maybe you can try to show her some compassion so you;ll understand how she feels. Enough of yourself for now.
2006-07-26 05:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but I can't really understand what you are saying either. However, I can say this, in the road of life there are many pot holes that you will hit along the way. Some of which may set you back but you just have to hold your head up high and keep on going. You're not the first to experience these problems and you won't be the last but to say you can't live any longer is ridiculous. Nobody controls your life but you. If you feel you've been wronged by family then you let them know and you move on. If everyone is so indifferent and you just don't want to deal with them then don't. It's your life. You need to take control of it. As far as your sister getting a divorce, it's not the end of the world. It'll get worse before it gets better.
2006-07-26 12:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a great sister for standing by your sister. Sounds like you are the only one that she has to turn to right now. Forget about the other family members now and just be there for her. People are people, they handle things differently, even family members. They don't always react the way we would like them to. Don't give up on life because of them. Be the good person that you are and help your sister all that you can. She will never forget the support you have given to her. Your one of the the "good guys" don't let them get you down. Times have changed so much. People don't care like they use to. This is so sad, but it's the way it is now days. I have a difficult time accepting it myself. I was raised to always care about others, even strangers. Today most people are out for themselves. The stress of life, living, and financial responsibilities have changed everything. Just keep your morals and do the best you can to help your sister. I think it's great that you are there for her when no one else will be. Best of luck to you and your sister. I hope all will improve soon.
2006-07-26 13:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are tired then step into your sisters shoes. She is the one who is going through the divorce, financial and spiritual problems, not you. If you can't be there to listen to her then help her find someone who can. There are health centers in every city in the U.S. Look in the phone book and find one. These places have qualified people in place to talk to people like your sister....and you. Pick up the phone and call. Some families don't believe in divorce, no matter the situation, and this sounds to be the way of your family. If you abandon your sister now, she will have no one. Stay strong and help her....but also help yourself...
2006-07-26 12:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jonijf13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone who can really spend some time listening and understanding what you're going through.
Do you go to church? Is there a preacher, bishop, et cetera that you can talk to? What about a man or woman who you respect? Could you ask them for some time to listen and advise you?
I understand your empathy for your sister, but it seems curious to me that you don't want to live because of your sister's divorce. You need to be there for her right now, but you also need some space and time and support of your own if you are feeling so overwhelmed and frustrated.
If you can't find someone to talk to, call Crisis Hotline. The number is: 800-999-9999
From your post, it sounds as if you are suicidal. If that's true, and you were to hurt yourself, think of all the added stress on your sister. She would have to deal with that on top of everything else.
Get some support for yourself so that you can be there for her.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-26 12:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mistress T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can live! You are stronger than you think! You asked for help didn't you? Listen to me , you cannot change people, change comes from within. When other people are cruel , it is time to distance yourself from them, that doesn't mean don't love them, just try to not take anything they do or say to heart. Find people to be around that are loving ,kind, and supportive! If you have your sister and she has you , then you each have at least one person to lean on. Keep your chin up, it will get better. You are special , no one can take that from you!
2006-07-26 12:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the question? Do you just need someone to talk to? People go through divorce all the time and yeah it's tough, but, they make it. She will be fine. There are counselors and lawyers that can help with both. Call the pastor of the local church for spiritual counseling, that might help too.
2006-07-26 12:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be worry about your sister's plm. Becasue she made the choice to be married that guy and your parent must told her about him before married and you sister didn't listen and she went with it. so now divorce and all the money parents lost and you should not be worry. Just do nothing until your sister ask you for help see what you can do and that all pretty much you can do for her.
So, you can move out and have peace space or just deal with your family living there.
2006-07-26 13:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family is family... good , bad or indifferent.... each is an adult and needs to live their own lives.... you have that same choice .. you are responsible for only you at this point.... that is not to say you should do what you can for your sister... she needs an ear right now.... someone to listen.... you do not have to say a word, just be there to hold her when she cries... tell your sister to start a journal.... it realy helps.... she can write it all down..... let it all go...... though you are not responsible for anyone elses life you can help her through this...... as for the rest of the family..... leave it all alone...... let them deal with their own lives..... tell them ALL , you do NOT want to hear their opinions... stay to urself for a while if you have to...... keep clear of them, they will get the picture..... if they ask you why you do not want to see or talk to them, be honest but respectful....... good luck and God bless
2006-07-26 12:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't understand why you can't live any longer because of your sisters problem! Seems like you need to get a grip on your life and leave other peoples problem to them. Seek help, counseling or something.
2006-07-26 12:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋