hey im dating this older guy. im 18 and hes 21. and he wants a relationship but im not sure im ready. he has 2 kids and not to mention a psycho ex. hes promised me the world...and he does make me happy...(in more than 1 way) i just havent expierenced as much as he has. so i dont want to feel like later on i missed out on anything. what should i do?
2006-07-26 05:14:57 · 57 answers · asked by lizlatina69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it is very hard to find a good guy. and alot of guys do not want to settle down. maybe you should jump on this, because if you dont take the chance, then you will never know. go for it.
2006-07-26 05:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by michelle 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You answered your own question. You don't seem ready for a committed relationship. If you feel you need more life experience and you get into this relationship you will always wonder what if...
It is a big deal to get into a relationship at a young age where the other party has children. Are you sure you are ready for the responsibility that entails? Like it or not, you will have a role in raising them and likely that will involve the psycho ex. point finale! Consequently if you break up it will involve the children and they will likely be hurt again. You're 18. You have tons of great people still to meet and a whole lot ahead of you. Don't limit yourself. Have fun while you can. Let me tell you, 30 is just around the corner!!!!
2006-07-26 05:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and he has already had experience since he has two kids and a psycho ex. Yes he is promising you the world but could he be saying that so that you could stay and be a mother to his two kids>? There are more guys out there who could also promise you the world. And you will miss out on life since you are young if you settle down now at 18.
Good Luck
2006-07-26 07:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Incredible2k6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well both of you are young people. And I would not consider three years much of a fact to say (older).
But he is 21 and has two kids. does he have a job. Is he responsible, is he taking care of these children. What is the relationship with him and the mother or mothers of these children.
Your are barely a child yourself, and I understand there is much more in the world for you to see. Did he promise the other woman (women) the world. You say the ex is psycho. WHy is she so. Investigate.
I would say, be wary of him. And take things slow.
I would need to know more
2006-07-26 05:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by rizzio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, How many men have you dated?
You are young. He is locked into the Dad role for the rest of his life. AT 18 are you ready to be someone's mom?
Where do you see yourself in 5 years, 10 years, etc...
Have you started on YOUR DREAMS??
Have you finished college? Do you have a career? Do you have a fabulous car? A Savings and a checking account? Have you traveled the world? Do you know all there is to know about your body and your sexual appetites? Have you dated on more than one continent? Have you ever done anything in your life yet, that makes YOU happy that does not surround a MAN's happiness.
I think not. Do these things first, then settle down!
Explore yourself! You have plenty of time, don't you?
Good Luck!
2006-07-26 05:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I JUST got out of a relationship with a 21 year old (I am 18) 4 months ago and I'm telling you right now... bail. My ex didn't have 2 kids, but he did have a psycho ex. He always made me feel guilty and made sure that I wouldn't leave him because I felt like I was missing out on something... and I told him I wouldn't... but the truth is, I DID miss out on a LOT. I missed out on my teen years and was forced to hang out with only his friends and stuff... I'm just warning you now, honey... bail. Especially with the 2 kids part... you're not ready for that stuff.
2006-07-26 05:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by kokoro52906 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through almost the same thing.. i was same age but the guy was older than 21.. (wink) he didnt have kids but i know what ur talking about.. even though he was GREAT and we liked each other a lot.. we were at different times in our lifes... i was starting college and he was done.. there is no way that we could have stayed together.. our affection for each other couldnt over ride that we were going two seperate places.
i always felt less superior than him because he was older.. but it wasnt true.. and i didnt no this at that time.. but i missed a lot of great things because of him
little things and little experiences that seemed so pointless then but mean the world now...
and ur guy has two kids so he is REALLY in an other place than u are.. i would say as much as he makes u happy and u to him.. there still are other guys out there..
honestly its gunna be hard to split from him.. but trust me its worth it in the end.. for urself.. .
ur young.. and u seem like an awesome girll .. so enjoy life.
have a GREAT day
2006-07-26 05:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is 3 years older than you, what has he done that you haven't... buy beer? If you are talking about kids, yeah wait. You don't want an 18 year old mom taking care of three kids. You can have a relationship without kids. And you can get a taste of what having kids is like through his. After that then you can make a decision.
2006-07-26 05:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel!! So many relationships, people mistake and forget to tell eachother their feelings about things-especially the important stuff. If he doesnt respect your desiscion than that will tell you he isnt ready for a future with you AND he's not going to be good enough-because he wont be respecting you in this situatation-who knows what itll be like in bigger ones ya know? You have to think of, if you really want to have to deal with two other kids from a different lover he's had, and the childrens "psycho" mom as you put it. If you dont feel ready, there's no need to rush into it. He should respect and understand you.
2006-07-26 05:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break it off with him.You're too young to be dealing with other people's children.Enjoy being young AND single.And you definitely don't need the drama of his psycho ex.He promised you the world?Do you know why?Because he's immature.They are empty promises.If he is such an honorable person why isn't he still with his ex? I can see that he has convinced you that his ex is psycho,maybe he is.Lie in bed at night(by yourself)just before going to sleep and really think about what you want in Life,Love,Relationships,Family.Decide what it is that you want for YOURSELF and YOUR future then go get them.Good luck.
2006-07-26 05:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by 2BaD4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place the older guy
is only 3 years older than you
He is in the learning process himself
If he is a very responsible man
and is taking care of his children
and has a good job you decide but
be-careful I mean a psycho ex.
is a serious thing and you could get hurt
People click differently
and Jealousy consumes and a psycho
could mean the end of you
But you make your own decision
and be aware of your surroundings
for-seeing things ahead
2006-07-26 05:23:58 · answer #11 · answered by Queen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋