i've been friends with this one guy for almost 3 years. we've dated on + off but it never seems to work out. lately he's been getting on my nerves more that usual because he's just so immature + he likes to use people for his own benefit. i get mad at him every once in a while but then a certain amount of time later, i forgive him b/c i'm either bored or have nobdy to talk to. he always says that he'll be there for me + he does listen to my problems when nobody else will. i'm seriously thinking about ending our friendship for good but i'm not sure if i could stop talking to him b/c he hangs around with my other friends. if i end it this time it will be for good. PLEASE HELP ME I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT I SHOULD DO. THANKS :)
p.s. i don't want to reason with him, it's either one way or the other
2006-07-26 05:10:04 · 11 answers · asked by ♥kisses_in_the_rain♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No. Because he will always be pushing to get back with you and you ALREADY know what lies ahead. Zebras do not change their stripes. They can only hide in the bush until they are spotted again. Make yourself happy, don't count on anyone else. If someone is worthwhile that you meet and want to SHARE your happiness, then go for it, but never let them drag you down with their own immature problems. A true friend/lover will not do this to/with you.
Good luck to you...
2006-07-26 05:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well..you need to ask yourself whether or not you truly care about him...whether that be as a "friend" or a lover....if you answer Yes to this, then I can't understand how you can just END it?? Unless, the relationship is simply not a healthy one...if it's causing you stress and your unhappy then it is best to end it but if we're talking about a real relationship here where there are feelings involved....I can't seem to understand why you would want to do something like this?? Bottom line is you need to be honest with yourself first and then take it from there....I hope everything works out for the best!!! Good Luck!!
2006-07-26 05:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sever the ties. It may take time, but boys will mature into men, and he may end up being the greatest guy in the world for you. Since he's getting on your nerves why not just spend less and less time with him. If you get to a point where you would rather spend no time than any time with him, then you will have your answer spelled out for you. If he comes around and becomes a great guy and you have broke it off for good, then you will have missed out on a great opportunity.
2006-07-26 05:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason he gets on your nerves so much is because yall have dated before. I feel the same way with friends that I have dated. There are probably some things that aggrevate him about you. I dont think you should stop bieng his friend though since he has always been there for you. You would be losing someone who cares about you.
2006-07-26 05:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With friends like that who needs enemies. Seriously if he is driving you nuts then stay his friend but not close. It ok to be polite to people, but you dont have to tell him your life story. And in a way if you reread this you will see that in a way you are using him to, when your bored and need someone to talk to.
2006-07-26 05:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have been good friends with him for a while so I dunno if you want to just end it. That decsion is all up to you! From experience though I had a rocky friendship like that so I had to finally end it. I just couldn't deal with it. I am not going to tell you to reason with him, but maybe you should atleast talk to him & tell him how you feel! Hope this kinda helps!
2006-07-26 05:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by sftballgrl48328 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl I had the same problem it seems like when u date a friend it never will be the same.Just move on with ur life. When he see that ur not paying him any attention anymore trust he'll come running back.
2006-07-26 05:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by lillexis979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stop hanging out with him and stop talking to him but when you both are around mutual friends just say hello and go on.
2006-07-26 05:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
problem for you-he doesn't see the need to change
problem from you-need to leave and stay gone. talk to friends and say when he is there you aren't. if friends add to the problem call but distance yourself. a good new guy and scenery sounds like a good prescription.
2006-07-26 05:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by firechap20 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing. if he's not using u or hurting u, what the hell are u bitching about
2006-07-26 05:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by brownsuga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋